Is it normal that i broke up with him because of this?

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I still have feelings for my ex its only been a few weeks since we broke up and i already miss him and want him back i still love him i just got tired of his family telling me that i was into drugs (i am not) and that i got him into drugs (i didn't as far as i know hes not doing any drugs) and his family saying that i will sleep with any guy (i wouldn't)i have told them that i don`t do drugs and wouldn't sleep with any guy hes told them this to and they don`t seem to listen but we also broke up because of some other problems now i just want him back i don`t care if his family wants to think that stuff about me or not i know its not true and that`s really all that matters and we have had problems before and we always seem to get over them sooner or later the point is is that i really do love him and i want to be with him ever since we broke up i just cant stop thinking about him and missing him i know i might have hurt him but i didn't mean to i just felt lost and stressed out i was very confused about what i wanted at the time and now i don`t know what to do...help..

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  • iindia
    12 years ago

    His family's accusations leaves you with two possibilities. He is doing drugs or he is not.

    If he does have a drug habit there is lying involved. The family is blaming her as a bad influence or (I hope not) caught him and he shifted the blame. This could be out of fear or apathy, without knowing more it is still an option.

    If he is not doping his family may be trying to sabotage the relationship or there is a major flaw in communication. It doesn't sound like they are trying to investigate the situation, not a good sign.

    At the end of the day you were lied to, thrown under the bus, schemed against, or engaged by people who are willing to shoot first and ask questions later.

    A suggestion to preserve any chance of it working again is to remove yourself from the situation. Watch from the sidelines and see if this exposes itself. Being patient may save you heartache now and future problems. Good luck, keep us updated on how this works out.

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    • Foxyroxyxo
      12 years ago

      Well so far i have talked to his mom in person and she freaked out at me so i basically told her that she needed to stop this and leave me alone and i told her off i thought me telling her off would make him mad/upset with me cause him and his mom or so close but i told him what happened and he told me he didn`t care that i told her off and so i was wrong about him being mad/upset with me over that i still havent told him i want him back i got scared and said something else inatead but i will talk to him i just want to talk to him after i have had the chance to calm down about this whole mess that was made thanks to his mom but once i have calmed down i will try to talk to him about getting back together.

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    • Foxyroxyxo
      12 years ago

      And yes i will keep you all updated on how this works out.

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    12 years ago

    If you don't do drugs at all.... you may want to ask why they claim YOU got HIM into drugs.

    Because that may mean that HE'S doing drugs. Which could be something you want to think about before you ask him to come back to you.

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    • Foxyroxyxo
      12 years ago

      I have asked and i would know if he were on drugs.

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      • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
        12 years ago

        then you have to decide what matters to you more...;

        his love
        or how his family acts

        although keep in mind if he's underage they can keep him from seeing you of course

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        • Foxyroxyxo
          12 years ago

          Hes 19 so age is not a problem

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        • Foxyroxyxo
          12 years ago

          And i already know what i want i just dont know how to do this..

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          • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
            12 years ago

            so what is it you want to do?

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            • Foxyroxyxo
              12 years ago

              Well i want him back its just that with everything that has happened i don`t know if he would still want me.....plus his parents just asked me if i would meet them and talk in person i am kind of nervous i don`t want to but if i say no it would look like i am hiding something and i am not plus i think i should tslk to them and see why all this is being said about me...

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  • Foxyroxyxo
    12 years ago

    Just when i think things get better more problems come up to do with this :(

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  • Jeshua
    12 years ago

    They won't leave yall alone. Screw it whenever you're happy you dnt worry about other ppls feeling. Think about it

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    • Foxyroxyxo
      12 years ago

      And he told me that he doesn't care that i just told her off so at least that`s not a problem i thought it might cause problems for me but i was wrong.

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    • Foxyroxyxo
      12 years ago

      Yeah your right i tried being nice i met his mom for coffee earlier and she just went off on me and i just told her i don`t want to start a fight i just want to try and talk calmly and if we cant do that then i am done with talking to you and she just freaked out on me so i got up and said look if your son wants to be with me then that`s his choice hes 19 and there`s nothing you can do to stop us from being together it`s his life and i am sure he wont appreiceate his mom making his choices for him and telling him how to live his life and if you don`t have anything better to do then to try and keep me and him apart and treat me like this then you can just stay away from me cause i am tired of trying to be nice to you and have you throw this in my face have a good f*cking life and left she did not look happy and i didn`t want to have to tell her off like that but she was getting very nasty with this whole situatin and i was tired of getting treat like crap i don`t need it i have enough to deal with as it is.

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  • Jeshua
    12 years ago

    Petty ass family mine is the same way alot. I just listen then go on like they didn't say anything it'll give you and your guy something to laugh at. They'll get over it

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    • Foxyroxyxo
      12 years ago

      I hope they will get over it cause i don`t want to give up on him i love him and only want him so it would be nice if they just left us alone and got over it if he wants to be with me then its his choice not there`s.

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  • purplegirl22
    12 years ago

    This whole story is confusing and a lot of drama. Why would you date him if he is on drugs? And why does his family think you got him into drugs? There has to be a reason. Anyway if you really LOVE him and he loves you, it shouldn't matter what his family thinks of you. I think you seem like you love him so you should get back together with him before its too late.

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    • Foxyroxyxo
      12 years ago

      Yeah i am working on getting him back his mom wants me to go meet her for coffee with her today i agreed to go and talk with her and he is not on drugs his parents are just overreacting idk what happened to make them think any of this but i guess i`ll just have to talk to her and see what her reasons for thinking this are....yes i love him i really do but idk if he would still want me after everything that has happened but i`m not giving up on him yet..

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  • Britton
    12 years ago

    I think they don't like you because you don't punctuate anything. This would be my reason! :P

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    • Foxyroxyxo
      12 years ago

      Plus that`s not really a reason to say this stuff about me. :P

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      • Britton
        12 years ago

        I'm just teasing with you! Don't take me seriously ok?

        And I will say GO GET HIM BACK! I dealt with a similar situation but her parents made us break up....we loved each other but they wouldn't let it play out the way we wanted it and Ive been bitter toward them ever since. Follow your heart girl!

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        • Foxyroxyxo
          12 years ago

          I have tried everything i want to get him back but idk if he will want me back now....idk what to do..

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          • Britton
            12 years ago

            Sweetheart, if he doesn't want you back then there is more to it than just his parents....

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            • Foxyroxyxo
              12 years ago

              True idk i have to talk to him and see what he wants.....the only thing we have talked about so lately is this situation we havent really had a chance to talk other then that....

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        • Foxyroxyxo
          12 years ago

          Opps i man they caused this and all of our other big problems cause we almost never have problems unless they are involved.

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          • Foxyroxyxo
            12 years ago

            meant*

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        • Foxyroxyxo
          12 years ago

          Ok sorry...and yeah his parents basically caused this all of our problems but idk i love him and want him back but idk if he feels the same..

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    • Foxyroxyxo
      12 years ago

      I am only 18 and i am in college its just that i havent been speaking english very long so its hard for me.

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  • Foxyroxyxo
    12 years ago

    Thankyou your right the whole thing just makes me wonder but i have him for over a year and we were really close before we started dating and even closer when we were dating so i would know if he started doing drugs hes against drugs strongly and wouldnt start using drugs but i am more worried about his parents saying thus about me

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  • sunny_wantsome
    12 years ago

    There is no smoke without fire. Thinking from the parents point of view they must be saying this because they must have heard or seen something about you.

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    • Foxyroxyxo
      12 years ago

      Thats what i thought so i asked if they had maybe seen me do something and it just looked like i was taking drugs or if they had heard something from someone when i asked they just laughed and said no we havent seen or heard anything

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      • sunny_wantsome
        12 years ago

        May be they are testing you?

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        • Foxyroxyxo
          12 years ago

          Hmm maybe oh well i already told his mom to stay away from me if she cant leave me alone cause i don`t need to be harrased and it was getting to the point were i could have pressed charges.

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          • sunny_wantsome
            12 years ago

            Harassed as in if you don't mind describing

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            • Foxyroxyxo
              12 years ago

              I was getting emails from his family all the time i was also getting alot of texts messages and calls from them and i told them i don`t do drugs and i did not get him into drugs he told me he is strongly against drugs and if he says hes not doing drugs and you have nothing to prove he is on drugs then leave it alone like you would know if he were on drugs he has not been acting or seeming any diefferent so leave it alone unless you can prove that he really is on drugs but like there is alot more that happened then that like it was getting very annoying they have been at me about this for over a week.

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  • dods22
    12 years ago

    You should never base your life or your relationships off of someone else's opinion. At the end of the day if your happy and he's happy that's all that matters. No one know you more than you know yourself so why bother trying to prove anything to them.

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    • Foxyroxyxo
      12 years ago

      Yeah its just hard when his familys saying all this.

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