Is it normal that i border line hate my eldest brother?

This year I moved in with my brothers and I absolutely hated it in the beginning. Hate would be an understatement to how miserable I was. Things have become a lot better but I absolutely can not shake the anger when it comes to my eldest brother. He is so anal and ridiculous about most things, I want to throw rocks at him. For example he wants me to clean the pans and the kitchen before I can eat the breakfast I made; essentially he doesn't care if my food gets cold, the kitchen should look like a magazine cover at all times. Little illogical things like that just pile. It's not just what he says, it's how he says it that absolutely makes me want to beat him up. His words are so demeaning and condescending. He constantly calls me a failure and I feel like I have no relationship with him. We're constantly disagreeing, and he is constantly insulting me. His double standards irk me. He has issues with everything I do or say, and I am a very likable individual, even if I say so myself. My housemates in University used to say I am amazing when it comes to tolerance/ avoiding and resolving conflict. It is so ironic that I can't do the same with my own flesh and blood.

Today, he put a gift on my bed for my birthday with a birthday card that had a poem about growing up with a sister, where he'd scribbled at the bottom "Thank God for cards and the lovely words they put together, for I would never say this to you myself". Is it normal that I wanted to throw his gift out of the window? I am just so angry with him for everything, an expensive gift box from Godiva does not buy respect or love. I border line hate my brother and I don't know how to make things better. Are my emotions normal?