Is it normal that i believe looks matter more than personality?

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I don’t know people say “looks fade”, when it’s personality that really faces because when we get older, our brains disintegrate and might develop dementia. Meaning, they can’t tell jokes or be witty/funny since the brain isn’t what is was when someone is younger.

The face, on the other hand, stays mostly the same, just a few wrinkles. I’m just so sick of hearing all this talk about “personality” when in reality it’s useless in a relationship.

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  • DIO
    4 years ago

    Both matters. Don't be an idiot.

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  • dimwitted
    4 years ago

    Shallow.

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    • CureforAspergers
      4 years ago

      Personality is the shallow aspect because some people aren’t born funny or witty since it’s based on brain wiring. Also, if a person is raised by serious, neurotic parents and can’t break out of it, is it fair to say that person is going to die lonely if he/she can’t change it?

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  • keanusneeze
    4 years ago

    Both matter. Are you 12? How do you expect to form a strong emotional bond with someone if you just can't get along and aren't on the same wavelength? Asshole.

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    • CureforAspergers
      4 years ago

      An Emotional bond can occur from physical attraction, and a strong personality won’t guarantee such a bond. Why do you very RARELY see interracial couples in places like Alabama or Mississippi? In a state that’s 35% black, marriages between two races are less than 3% of all couples.

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  • MysticLane
    4 years ago

    Have you ever even been in a relationship btw?

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    • CureforAspergers
      4 years ago

      I haven’t been in a relationship. I have Asperger’s and that makes me socially awkward which can be out of my control. If personality wasn’t so important. then girls wouldn’t be off put by my awkwardness and lack of experience.

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      • MysticLane
        4 years ago

        Dude. I know you're trying to justify that your good enough to have a girlfriend by saying personality doesnt matter. but thats not right. The truth is you have a personality. Even if you are awkward and arent witty thats still a personality. Just figure out what your good aspects are because you definitely have them. And I'm sure theres plenty of girls that will like your personality.

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  • MysticLane
    4 years ago

    Let me give a good example of what matters more:
    A few years ago I had 2 guy friends and both of them liked me and fought over me. One of them was the most gorgeous guy I had ever laid eyes on and the other was okay looking but overweight. So naturally I was into the gorgeous guy and we saw eachother for a while while i still remained friends with the other guy.
    Fast forward to now I am seeing the lesser attractive guy because in the end the gorgeous one's personality was not great and I relate more to the other one because we are similar and have a similar sense of humor etc. etc.
    hope this example helps you because this is when I first realized that yes, being attractive is really important in the beginning, but for long term relationships its more important to have a good personality

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    • CureforAspergers
      4 years ago

      For long relationships, I don’t consider personality important aside from being a nice person and respectful. Idk why this is suddenly an important issue when back in the 1950s people married early without regard to personality. They just did it partly due to societal norms/expectations.

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      • MysticLane
        4 years ago

        btw I guarantee most of those people who got married to people they weren't compatible with were pretty miserable

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        • CureforAspergers
          4 years ago

          Like I said, being a nice person is enough for me. But you seem to equate not being funny/playful/witty (most of what personality is according to people) as being a bad person and undateable. You may not be a religious person, but I typically look for another Christian first and foremost because the Bible prioritizes equal faith in marriage.

          Most people who married back then were not miserable because of lower divorce rate 50 years ago. All of a sudden divorce rates have gone up when now personality is a big factor. Reality is people aren’t going to church and making faith the cornerstone in their relationships.

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          • MysticLane
            4 years ago

            Not at all. just because someone's personality doesn't align with mine doesn't make them a bad person. But I'm still not going to date them. And i hate to break it to you but the majority of people are the same.

            Lower divorce rate back then is because it was socially unacceptable and financially impossible for women.

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            • CureforAspergers
              4 years ago

              Not the majority of people in the Deep South (Alabama, Georgia, etc.) who still marry based on faith first. It’s still socially unacceptable to divorce nowadays and divorce is still a hefty price. So the consequences of divorce hasn’t changes, only the morals have.

              As I mentioned in another comment, I have Asperger’s syndrome and never been in a relationship partly because I’m not living in the right area or part of the country where I can meet someone who is religious and conservative as I am

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      • MysticLane
        4 years ago

        I mean its pretty obvious that if you don't like someone's personality your not gonna be able to be around them 24/7, that would drive anyone crazy. Ive been around some good looking guys but if their personality sucks then I dont wanna be around them and I'm pretty sure most people would agree with that

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  • momwatcher69
    4 years ago

    Yes

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    • CureforAspergers
      4 years ago

      Ok so you do realize that the different brain formation associated with autism means that socializing can’t be mastered. However, looks can be improved and maximized with gym and healthy eating. So my point is that I am on the autism spectrum, so I should work on my looks to find a girlfriend because “game” is not going to work out for me with my disorder. And I have a positive attitude, ask anyone who knows me.

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  • momwatcher69
    4 years ago

    CureforAspergers,

    Are you the O/P? (original poster)

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    • CureforAspergers
      4 years ago

      Yes, my name is that way because I hate having Asperger’s and all I can do to improve my dating prospects is to lose weight and work on physical aspect because my brain just can’t learn wit and humor no matter what I do. Hopefully a lot of girls like guys for their looks and those are the good girls.

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      • momwatcher69
        4 years ago

        Thanks for the clarification. You should have mentioned that, in your posting. I owe you an apology, for my earlier comment, about being a "moron", because I thought you were a "normal" person, saying something stupid.

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        • CureforAspergers
          4 years ago

          Do you know about Asperger’s?

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  • momwatcher69
    4 years ago

    keanusneeze & DIO "get it".....

    You said: "I’m just so sick of hearing all this talk about “personality” when in reality it’s useless in a relationship."

    This kind of thinking/statement, from you, (or anyone) IS the definition, of "MORON".

    mo·ron
    /ˈmôrˌän/
    a stupid person.
    synonyms: fool, oaf, nincompoop, clown, dunce, dolt, dullard, ignoramus, simpleton

    Personality is what gives people (and pets) their individuality. You seriously DON'T understand that ?!

    I actually pity "people" like you.... SO sad you don't have a clue !

    Plan on being lonely for a very long time.... you know....'til the wrinkles show up, on your face...... jeez

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    • CureforAspergers
      4 years ago

      I’m on the autism spectrum so I don’t know humor and can’t be confident. However, I can hit the gym to be fit since” personality” can’t be worked on if you have Asperger’s/Autism.

      All that matter is kindness and physical attraction. Fun isn’t a factor and I don’t know why it’s so stressed when it has no correlation to a happy relationship. Again, autistic people like me don’t know how fun works or when to be funny.

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      • MysticLane
        4 years ago

        fun and humor 100% correlate with a happy relationship

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