Is it normal that i avoided my crush all through college?

I had a secret crush all through college, many years ago. I kept bumping into her, and was in a few of her classes, but the thought of seeing her severely stressed me out, night and day. I was never able to speak to her, and found myself either sweating or shaking whenever there was a good opportunity to speak to her (so, I avoided doing so). Once she smiled at me, and I think i literally melted. Still, ironically, I basically lived to be near her during those days, and was always wondering where she was, and what she was doing (NO.. I never stalked her!).

Now, all these years later, I'm happily married, and yet I still occasionally think about her and sometimes the regret of that "lost opportunity" is overwhelming.

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79% Normal
Based on 14 votes (11 yes)
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  • momwatcher69

    If you hadn't used the word "regret", I would've voted yes/normal.

    You're happily married, so have your occasional remembrances, but not to the extent you convince yourself you "blew it".
    In fact, if you're happily married, why do you even think about it?

    Your post made ME think of MY 1st crush, in 3rd grade. Pam West was her name, a tall, tan beauty. But I haven't thought about her, since 3rd grade, until tonight. We all "move on" to what our current reality is, now.

    The grass isn't always greener. Be happy with what you have, and let her go. She's probably happily married, too.

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  • Doesnormalmatter

    Don't dwell on missed opportunities. Whenever I have done that in the past it hasn't boded well.

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  • GaelicPotato

    Your marriage sounds super successful.

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    • Doesnormalmatter

      Lol your sarcatsic right? Seems to me like he still often thinks about ramming himself into his college crush.

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      • GaelicPotato

        Pretty sure he does.

        And yes, it's sarcastic.

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        • Doesnormalmatter

          Well great than, were on the same page!

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    • judeji

      It might not make sense to you (if you're being sarcastic), but people who are experienced in life can deeply regret a past circumstance, but also realize that it all worked out for the best anyway. It's just that the "hurt" feelings from so long ago do not just simply leave your brain.

      I am tremendously thankful for my wife (20 happy years together! yes...success), and truly wouldn't trade her even up for any other woman today (including the college crush).

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      • GaelicPotato

        The fact you consider it "trading up" speak volumes.

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        • momwatcher69

          He didn't say: "trading up" ..... He said he wouldn't trade her "even up" ( meaning equivalent )

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        • judeji

          How so, Aiden? I'm curious. You seem to either be 1. a very lonely, jealous individual, or 2. a troll with way too much time on his hands.

          Either way, it is your commentary that "speaks volumes", but in a much more negative, creepy way.

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