Is it normal that i avoid the guy i like?

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so i have a crush on this guy, but i don't know his feelings towards me yet. He fits most of the features i made in my mind for the perfect man i want to be with. I'm a trainee in the company where he works, i know him for two months but i hadn't the chance to know if he is in a relationship or not. I noticed him looking at me discretely few times and when we are in a group of people he most of the time seems like i'm the only one he is talking to (by the way a friend of mine noticed that too).
Sometimes i talk to him normally (and i enjoy those conversations), but most of the time i avoid him coz i'm afraid he judges me as clingy or desperate to be with him especially after seeing how he behaved when another girl tried to show him that she is interested in him.
That's so confusing for me, when i try to get close to him the idea of looking desperate haunts me and when i try to keep distant i'm afraid he looses interest...
I need help guys, especially since i lack of experience. thank you in advance

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  • KeddersPrincess
    11 years ago

    I used to be with this way with my 8th grade crush. I always regretted not talking to him because he eventually thought of me as a weird stalker. I say, try to break the fear because, I doubt you situation will be like mine, but won't get any better as long as you stay away.

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    • I_hope_i_am_normal
      11 years ago

      You avoided him but yet he thought of you as a stalker ?

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      • KeddersPrincess
        11 years ago

        No; I avoided talking to him, but I stared at him from a distance. Not because I was stalking him but because I thought he was beautiful and I wanted to look at him. He assumed I was stalking him and it all went down hill from there.

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        • I_hope_i_am_normal
          11 years ago

          I see. I'm sorry for that. Wish you all the best dear :) thank you for stepping by and answering

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  • Soup1090
    11 years ago

    Look, you should just talk to him more. Easy to say but hard to do especially if you are shy. I think he probably likes you to if he is glancing at you because that's what I do. I'm under 20 and with no dating experience but if a girl stayed distant from me like you say you have been I would assume she doesn't want to talk to me at all. Find a median and if it seems like he enjoys being around you spend more time with him. And if he does make an effort to talk to you, be sure to return it or he will think you don't want to be around him.

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    • I_hope_i_am_normal
      11 years ago

      Thank you for your answer

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  • rosa333
    11 years ago

    It is normal, but most likely a decision which you will regret.

    Having said that, you need to get moving girl. When he looks at you, look back at him and smile.
    Talk to him when you get a chance. He doesn't have to start the conversation first.
    Don't think about whether he finds you desperate or not. Do you think that he is desperate because he looks at you? NO.

    Make sure that this does not go to waste, it isn't worth it.

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    • I_hope_i_am_normal
      11 years ago

      yep that's true. But i guess i need to know the boundaries that if i cross them i might be considered as clingy. Thank you for the lovely answer

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      • rosa333
        11 years ago

        No worries :) Try google search. I'm sure you will find what you need about being clingy there.

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        • I_hope_i_am_normal
          11 years ago

          Actually that google search is one of the reasons of my fear and confusion :p

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          • rosa333
            11 years ago

            I guess, do everything that makes you clingy in moderation.

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  • isanythingnormal
    9 years ago

    yea if you never wanna be with him then it is

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