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Usually when I see that person I think of their bad past, most of them who acted like a total shithead towards me.
And I find it harder to talk to them.
Is it a normal thing?
I rarely ever see people who wronged me but when I do I just pretend like they don't exist, pretty much. I don't know why I should talk to them. If they approached me and started talking i'd just be polite but put an end to the conversation as quickly as possible by pretending to be in a hurry or whatever. I don't care if they have bettered themselves, what's done is done and on top of that it's probably possible that depending on whom it is they've been give at least 2 chances already. And it's great if a crap person can magically turn into a great one, but people aren't allowed a new batch of trust with me. Once we've gone separate ways that's it. So no I wouldn't say it's strange to associate shitty people with the shitty things they did. It's just being wary and respecting yourself.
If they've done something to make you not trust them, then don't trust them. Just be very receptive to their actions, you may be in a situation where you have to or should interact with them, like a job or you see them when you're with someone
It's even smart to recognize the red flags you saw in them. Stereotypes should never be acted upon as if reverent truth, but they are good for assessing someone, like if they accurately represent stereotypes or motifs. Carl Jung pushed an idea of a collective unconscious, in which archetypes lie.
What I try to do is constantly observe myself observing myself, avoiding adrenaline or whatever, and just have as much self preservation as I can if I'm in a situation I don't think is safe
You say these people have a bad past, and I personally wouldn't associate with them if their present has not improved. If these people had a bad past, but they've improved themselves it should be reasonably okay to associate with these people, but if these people are still scumbags then don't associate with them.