Is it normal that i ask people questions and they don't answer me???

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I will be talking to someone or to a group of people and everyone will be sharing in a discussion with questions asked and questions answered. However, usually, when I ask a question, people will actually ignore me and simply let "my" question drop. They will not answer me. I am not asking anything dumb,rude, nerdy, or inappropriate. I am asking about things or commenting on things completely relevant to the discussion. And, I don't say a lot or run my mouth a lot either. And, my tone of voice is FINE and I know that they can hear me. However, because "I" ask the question, certain people just completely ignore me one-on-one or within a group. This happens in work settings, casual groups,parties, or wherever a group of people happen to be talking to each other. And, its always a different person who decides to ignore me. And, no, I am not busting in on the conversations of a group of people that I do not know. These people know me as much as anyone else in the group and they just choose to diss me for no reason! Makes me wanna slap a bitch...

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Lol..Get a bullhorn and ask the question.

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    • [Old Memory]
      13 years ago

      haha

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  • Complex4
    13 years ago

    hmmmm maybe these people think of u as or get the image that u r kinda boring looser (correction :doesn't really mean that u r ) or unimportant...

    maybe u need some new friends( cos they r arrogant )
    but if it happens with new different people u meet n talk with also then....Valkeer may have a point there...
    that maybe u r not asking any REAL interesting questions...not letting go n being free...somewhat strung up n nervous...

    always discussing about polite/unobjectional topics so as not to offend anyone which dont really have much scope to talk about...

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  • tori
    13 years ago

    I get the same response from my mother in law and her side of the family. I believe they like me better being a couch potato when I visit them. I wait to be talked to. It's horrible I know, but after many years of looks, and seeing the back of their heads when I speak has put me silent. I don't care anymore. I just laugh to myself and think thank God they are not MY blood relatives. I only see them twice a year so I can deal with it.

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  • SwimBikeRun
    13 years ago

    If this were only happening in one setting I would guess that it would be that particular group's problem. But since you describe this among different groups of people and in different settings it must be something you're doing. Forgetting about groups of people, how do you generally do in one on one conversations?

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    • [Old Memory]
      13 years ago

      I agree.

      It has to be something you (original poster) are doing and you are seemed to be unaware of what it is. You are the only thing that is consistent here, so YOU have to be the source. Without having a real conversation with you it is difficult to pinpoint what it is exactly that you are doing that would make people want to ignore what you have to say.

      At least you're on the right track: trying to figure out what it is that you are doing to contribute to your own frustration - good for you!

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  • Sweetz
    13 years ago

    Your not being loud enough

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    That happens to me too :c

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  • eternalsmoke31
    13 years ago

    When that happens just say sumthing like " Oh yall cant hear too well" its best if you cut off whomever is speaking becuz then u become the focus....

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Happens to me sometimes too, I don't let it bug me & you shouldn't either. If you want you could ask the question again or confront them.

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  • [oozingNORMALITY]
    13 years ago

    What?

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    "I am not asking anything dumb,rude, nerdy, or inappropriate"

    Maybe that's why. If all you're ever asking is safe and polite questions you're not going to get much of a reaction. Dullness breeds dullness and a lifeless question won't get much attention.

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  • takeiteasy12
    13 years ago

    Same way with me the only thing to do is stop asking questions. Try it it works. In fact ive kind if trained myself to keep my mouth shut. Do u realize that words are bad? The president says something and everyone jumps all over it. You will never feel bad or get into trouble or anything if you just be quiet. Ive started and it works amazingly. Just try it please!

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