Is it normal that i am totally clueless about relationships

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Hey, I'm Star I am almost 20 years old girl and never had a boyfriend, kissed or had sex. Like my post say I am clueless about relationship, they just scare the shit out of me and even if I get opportunities (got approached lots of times), I simply can't start something intimate with someone else. When I was 15 its wasn't much of an issue but as time goes I feel late and insecure because I feel like everybody else are more experienced then I am. The worst is that it goes in that big circle don't understand relationships so avoid them so gets no experience so get insecure so don't try to understand relationships and it starts again and again. (sorry for all the grammar mistakes)

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Based on 55 votes (45 yes)
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  • justina5565
    11 years ago

    In a relationship there are ups and downs. no one is perfect, theirs going to be good times and bad times. You should always focus on postive things. you dont have to be in a rush to have sex. guys will tell you what you want to hear to get whatever they want, dont be fool. you sure wait until you feel better about about it. just sit down and think about what you want, write in down on a piece of paper. I will tell what to do, do some researching about relationship. Read a book about it. all relationship are not bad, its just the choices you make. alway find someone that likes the same things you like. I tell you what if you meet someone you like tell me about him.

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    • twinklesstar
      11 years ago

      Thanks ,ill try what u said!

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    Star?

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  • Anime7
    11 years ago

    Sounds hard to believe, but trust me, there are plenty of people in your situation.

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  • supaflyafro
    11 years ago

    so what you're saying is just because you're 20 years old you feel like you're supposed to have already been in a relationship regardless who and what you are?

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    • twinklesstar
      11 years ago

      Actually yes ! But when you say it like that I can see that it doesn't make sense to see it like that.

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  • Silencure
    9 years ago

    I can relate to this a hell of a lot. Relationships are hard and if you're not comfortable in them, don't get into them tbh. There's nothing wrong with being single. If you want a relationship, then you need to find someone who you trust and someone who will understand how you feel and not someone who will expect you to put your comfort aside for them.
    Good luck on your endeavors.

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  • RomeoDeMontague
    10 years ago

    Would you like some tips? Its not really complicated.

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  • twinklesstar
    11 years ago

    Thank you all for answering this helps a lots!!!!

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  • MsWVgal
    11 years ago

    Just focus on your friendships. The best relationships develop from those people you've already cultivated a strong friendship with. You don't have to start with a focus of "he is going to be my boyfriend one day." Let things develop as they will.

    Otherwise, there is no deadline for your first relationship. So relax and enjoy being yourself.

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  • Lia
    11 years ago

    I'm the same, 20, virgin, and relationships - the commitment and intimacy - scare the shit out of me, and the guys who have asked me out I turned down because I did't feel that way about them, so I've never been in a relationship while all my other close friends have boyfriends now that they consider the love of their life.

    It's not the end of the world if you don't have relationship experience - if anything, your partner may find it cute to be 'your first' everything.

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