Is it normal that i am tired of being the villain?

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I value honesty, even if it is brutal honesty. I am usually the guy that tells people the harsh truths.

I wouldn't say that my friends hate me... but they kind of fear me and resent me a little. I know that deep inside my friends appreciate what I do for them, in fact, they even request me to tell people things at times.

However, most of the time, people treat me as if I was "the bad guy". People always want to disagree with me. No one ever sides with me in arguments while I am present... it is as if they thought they would sell their souls or something. No one ever defends me when someone insults me, they expect me to be able to handle it. I have thought about this many times... and I concluded that my group sticks together by having me as a common "enemy".

The thing is that... I am tired of being the villain. I don't want to be the source of hostility anymore. I want people to treat me like a human being. I believe that I deserve to have friendlier interactions with people. I have started being less violent with my honesty... however... people still expect me to be the one to throw the venom.

And well, I was just wondering if someone has been in similar situations. So, it this normal?

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  • Poppy2222
    10 years ago

    Its how you say it. But yes, more positive speak.Then negative speak.

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  • handsignals
    10 years ago

    You need to focus more on the positives and tolerate the negatives.

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  • Terrik1337
    7 years ago

    I see two options here:

    1) Keep going in the direction you are going. Positive people tend to receive positive interactions. That doesn't mean you aren't entitled to your opinion, just try not to be toxic about it.

    2) Find a group of people just as toxic as you are and feed off of each other's toxicity. It can be fun to hang out with people who are cynical about the world and critical of the government.

    I chose Option 2 myself, but I believe option 1 is what normal people do.

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  • ccjigsaw
    10 years ago

    Just keep up with what you're doing. When people ask you to give a harsh opinion, do what everyone else does "Ehhh, ahh.. it's not baaaad" Vague crap like that. If people ask why you're not being your usual brutally honest self, just tell them you're turning a new leaf and choose not to do that anymore. Things might change for the better, and If they don't, then there's no harm done and you can just switch back

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    People are generally cowards in a social sense.

    It is envy of your ability, nothing more, nothing less. I've seen it a hundred times. They may tell you it's because of this or that, but it's bullshit they lay down to hide their weakness.

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  • Caps90
    10 years ago

    you have to put yourself in the others shoes, think about where they are coming from. Give them advice that will help them and not tear them down. Constructive criticism. You also have to think... is it your place to say anything at all.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    The be the Hero.

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  • FocoUS
    10 years ago

    I understand but you can be honest without being the bad guy.

    In my animation class we deal with a lot of really harsh critique. We had this one guest, professional animator, look at our work. He critiqued us with such grace he could tell us to start over from scratch and we'd feel good about ourselves!

    You can be honest without being the bad guy.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Well, I relate a lot to this. I study arts as well, and I am used to harsh critique. Among my classmates we have told each other things that go beyond brutal honesty, and we are all happy like that.

      But my friends are not like that at all, they don't appreciate sincerity. They get mad at me for telling the truth, even if it is about little things. I always end up looking like the bad guy with them.

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  • imadragon
    10 years ago

    Maybe try to be nice to them, I don't know if you are. You said that you tried to stop being violent with your honesty, which in normal cases no one needs to be.

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