Is it normal that i am submissive with men and dominant towards women

Well this is mainly about sex but to give a little background I am a submissive woman towards men i learned that about myself i guess aggressive guys , slightly controlling guys turn me on and i find it attractive, i dont want someone that will beat on me but i need someone that can put me in my place i feel like thats a way of showing they care. BUT im totally dominant when it comes to having sex with women i get turned on by them obeying me is this normal predominantly i date men and am a person that wants to please others but when having sex with woman im more like the man i want ....