Is it normal that i am still with my boyfriend after this?

why would you stay with him after all he's done? he sounds horrible to me.

He's young, you're young. He obviously can't control himself which isn't shocking at his age. You should take some time apart, explore other opportunities.
There is always something better out there for you.

Obviously it's normal to stay with him if you love him and forgive him so easily. But if you keep being all sweet and loving when he screws up, he won't learn. A lot of men are like dogs, you can either be nice and tell them to stop doing something and eventually have it happen again, or you can get mean about it and they'll try to avoid you getting angry. Dogs really hate making their masters angry.

is it really worth all that pain?

Sounds like a real catch make sure you don't lose him

You two sound like you have alot of growing up to do. trust issues never end well

LEAVE HIM. I DESPISE MEN DON'T OWN UP TO THEIR ACTIONS. AND GIVE EXCUSES TO MAKE THEMSELVES FEEL BETTER ABOUT IT. PATHETIC. IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT. SINCE YOU'RE SO UNAFFECTIONATE (according to him), THEN TELL HIS DIRTY SELF TO FIND SOMEONE ELSE. HE DOES NOT DESERVE YOU OR THIS AMAZING LOVE YOU ARE CAPABLE OF. Dump him, please !

Hes young his hormones are raging at their sexual peak dont expect him to not be sexually attracted to other females should they offer themselves to him, or the other way around, because at this point, he thinks with "two heads" you catch my drift

The classic line "im sorry it will never happen again"

Truth is, and hes proven it, Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater that should be a motto baby girl if you want to stay with him if you feel you have "invested" in him since you say you've been for 5 years, then be ready for the consistent red flags in the past, right now the present, and high probability will continue to in the future.

You are young just because he was your "first sweetheart" doesnt necessarily mean you should thus be binded to him to withstand all this in the future. No one forgets their first love blah blah blah yeah i know but its not "him or no one else" thats blind, and rather stupid might i add

This doesnt sound like a healthy relationship. Think of yourself do you really want to be like this asking IIN users and spilling out your heartache is this the kind of relationship you dream of

WAIT. You don't ever compliment him or show affection?

...No wonder he behaved that way. If you love someone you need to show them, not just tell them. For a healthy relationship you need to satisfy each other's needs. (Within reason, nothing that makes one or both of you uncomfortable.) If you don't want to send him a dirty pic borrow his phone and take one. He'd love to see that surprise. Hell, take more than one. He WANTS to jerk off to you, you shut him out so he just resulted to asking a couple whores. Of course he is in the wrong, but you need to take some blame too.

If he doesn't feel like you are loving him, if he doesn't feel appreciated, he won't be happy. And if he's not happy he'll act out in an attempt to get your attention and notice what you're doing. It's an excuse for him to bring up what he doesn't want to admit.

I dunno, makes sense to me though. Sounds like you need to think more about your relationship and if you guys are really right for each other. Or at least openly discuss your needs together and get on the path to a healthy, lasting relationship.

What a douche I'd kick his ass

I think you're both old enough to be responsible and accountable for your actions. That being said, if he has done it so many times before, he'll probably do it again and again.

If you can or can't live with this is your choice, but I highly doubt it will stop. You could consider sending him pictures if that's really what he wants and needs in a relationship. If not you might have to go separate paths, your happiness comes first, and if you aren't happy then you can't possibly make someone else happy. There are people in this world who don't do these things but you really have to search and be willing to make and live with the many mistakes that people make to find one

The future is up to you. Can you live with a man like this, or will you take your chances with the unfamiliar hoping things get better?

Too long to read but, ah, theres plenty of fish in the sea and life goes on. Good advice? Well, then.

He has touched on a fact that's covered up by this idea of monogamy... It's unnatural.

Everyone has been socialized to believe that when you're with someone you should closet your sexuality to that person. In the end, you see how well that works out.

People werent meant to be monogamous. Plain and simple.

You wasted 3 years of ur life with him?

DONT SEND HIM ANY PICTURES.
That shit spreads, ever heard of 'revenge porn' also he doesn't sound very remorseful at least break up with him for a bit just to teach him a lesson. Try getting with another dude when your out of the relationship, 'ok cupid' dating site is good for this and work on the affection thing with the other dude, best of luck also move in/ hang out with girlfriends and ben and jerry <3
love/dateing is hard babe xxx

Sweetie, this bullshit ain't love it's codependence. You said, "He is my everything and we can't be apart for more than a few hours before we start missing each other." No offense but that doesn't sound like love, it sounds like pathetic desperation! So let me get this straight, a person who sends texts of his unit to other girls is your everything? So he's more important than God, your friends and family, your hobbies and interests(if you have any), your education, your future? When you break up with him for sexting other girls and then take him back you are sending a message to him that it's okay. Every time you take him back for this punk ass shit and every time you fail to leave him when he's disrespectful you are chipping away at yourself; at your self esteem. I know five years is a long time but this doesn't sound like love it sounds like you're afraid of being alone and that's very sad. Put on your big girl pants, break up with him already and let the chips fall where they may. Cut off all contact with him and focus on yourself; your education, your future. My God do you hear the crap you're saying, "I know he doesn't want any of these girls. Its like a guy having a one night fling, but with sexting." So is it okay for people to cheat on each other all willy nilly? Cause that's what those words infer. No wonder you don't show him affection or compliment him when he acts like this. Stop trying to fix it and make it work. Stop being afraid and desperate. Just cut him loose like a fart in the wind.

Just out of curiosity what kind of relationship do your parents have? Did your father lie and cheat on your mother? Is your mother cold and distant toward him? Maybe you should see a therapist to help you through this and help you understand why you feel the need to put up with these unhealthy patterns? Understand you are powerless over his thoughts and actions and whether or not he is sexting other girls. You're not responsible for his actions. Leave him be and move on with your life. You're too young to be throwing your life away like this. I wish you all the best!

Also check out CoDA which stands for Codependents anonymous <a href="http://www.coda.org/" rel="nofollow" class="ui-link">http://www.coda.org/</a>

LEAVE THAT JERK. hes an idiot if he thinks he can get away with it. i understand you love him, but really truely, you could do better. he shouldn't have to satisfy himself that way he is lucky to have you and u shouldn't let him walk all over you

Leave him if you want a piece of mind. If you cannot leave him, I suggest you ask him what type of affection he wants you to display for him and see if you can do it. He is asking for your affection and you will not give it to him or am I misunderstanding?

no i dont think your being stupid by being hurt and crying from these texts from other girls, i think its normal seens hes done some dutty things from texting.
and yes i think its normal, relationships will ALWAYS have its up in down, and it seems like he really made up for what hes done.
i kinda think though you should show him more affection if u dont, its only right seens you guys do love each other.

Best just to leave him and save yourself more pain.

Get away from him. He's kept doing thistle 2 years an if he truly respected you he wouldn't do it and would wait. Dump his sorry ass and wait for the right guy to come along and treat you like a princess

I'm in the same boat so to speak..I get told by him I'm just very jealous, but I once asked a friend what we had for homework (while still in school) and he got so upset and didn't talk to me for the rest of the day. But I do live him more than anything! And I had a friend tell me that " you can ask someone to change, but you can't make them change who they are. But in time they will slowly start changing" so just tell him that leaving (if it happens again) is on your mind, and he will think twice before he does it again!

I think this is ridiculous! Sending pictures of his penis?! Really?? C'mon now.

Don't let him turn this round to be your fault! It's not, he should respect you more. He's just a little pervy, but maybe he'd be better with some porno mags than real live girls which threaten your peace of mind.

Sound like a bit of a fool to me, pet.

Sad to say he is going to keep doing these things because you let him. And I don't know why you think it wouldn't go (or hasn't gone) past texting. I know it's impossible to imagine, but you WOULD be all right without him. Better, actually.

This seems very touching. Have you tried talking to the girls he's been texting? They may help you to get him to stop if they understand.

Why do you want to live your life miserable

YOu have to show him you care too it takes 2 in realationship