Is it normal that i am starting to hate women?

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Allow me to elaborate on the title.

Recently my deep resentment for this girl I love has started to overpower my positive feelings about her, to the point where I feel bitter for months. This girl is engaged to her boyfriend of 6 years, but however she has been in multiple situations in which she is being used as a sexual object by men, and she has done in some cases, very little if anything to stop their advances at all, and sometimes even welcomed them by allowing it.

Allow me to give reference:

Around two years ago she allowed a man to put his hand down her skirt on the dance floor and actually touch her pussy. Her excuse was that she had, quote: "pushed his leg" to try to stop him. This is while his hand was on her pussy. This doesn't make sense to me, and sounds like a shit excuse and thus made me very angry - essentially I see it as her glossing a story because she doesn't want to admit to me she just let him do it. This same night, she tells me that this man was able to slip off her panties without her noticing, and actually kiss her on the pussy also. Her excuse again when challenged some months later was that she "tripped out of the panties" because she didn't feel his hands up her skirt because they are so "light" and she later denied claiming that he kissed her pussy after all. I however, was so angry about the whole night I knew my memory was serving me correctly, so I saw this as a change of story.

By all means correct me if my accusations on this girl are too harsh, I REALLY need some input on this because sometimes I feel it's driving me insane and making me think irrationally. If I am thinking irrationally, or if it is normal to be suspicious of this girl, for heavens sake tell me!

Over the past three years, loads of situations have happened in which she has allowed acts to happen, including one occasion which she actually admitted to allowing a man to kiss her, but claimed she was thinking of me and not her fiancé. I didn't take this as a compliment at all.

Recently she dropped a bombshell: apparantly everything she did over the past three years were actually lies. She doesn't want me to get hurt when she gets married to her boyfriend, so she tried to get me to not like her instead by telling me these stories (and strangely enough defending her fictional actions also...)

This recent bombshell has made me completely distrust her. I've started to get so pissed off that I've started to hate all women in general. No matter which way you look at it, she's a liar, she either kept a lie for three entire years, or she is lying about her past actions, for three entire years to wipe a slate clean. If someone can throw away your trust like this after four years, is it normal to start to distrust and hate women in general?

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Women are hypocritical, lying, monstrous creatures devoid of respect or caring for anyone. Women survive on money, sex, and attention. That's my opinion on them.

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  • Shackleford96
    12 years ago

    "Recently my deep resentment for this girl I love has started to overpower my positive feelings about her, to the point where I feel bitter for months."

    I can REALLY relate to this. I am still bitter sometimes thinking about some of the things that I let happen and put up with. Except I wouldn't call it love for me because love is not one-sided...

    Anyways, back to you. I feel that you are in no way over-reacting at all. She is a liar and you have every reason not to trust her. That being said, this might even be a little hypocritical of me to say this, but try not to let your distrust/bitter feelings for her carry over into mistrusting/hating/feeling bitter towards all women because while some of them can be evil royal bitches to an exceptional degree, there are many out there who are just the opposite. Also, if I was in your situation, I would (and have before) dissociate yourself from her and end the relationship. Trust me, you will be better off and hurt less if you do this.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    She may be a liar, but you're the one in love with a liar. I think this is normal and common; it only takes one bad experience to discourage people from trusting and/or liking whatever.

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  • equanimity
    12 years ago

    Yikes, you have every reason to feel hurt at being so deceived.

    Not all women are like that though. I actually doubt that most are.

    She probably has low self-esteem. Try building it up, or find someone who is already there.

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  • someoneoutthere
    8 years ago

    It is normal for you to be disappointed but you should know that this is not the only type of women. Give chances to other girls!! It might be hard for you to trust someone again but I am sure you are gonna find a girl who acts with real emotions towards you.

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  • Flippyfloppy
    11 years ago

    I hate whores like this and if she was engaged why were you talking to her? You may not have touched her but you were talking and spending time with an engaged woman mind fucking her so your just as bad as pussy kisser

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  • charli.m
    12 years ago

    People can be arseholes. Not everyone is like that. This girl sounds like she has major issues, but that's not really a valid reason to hate all women (though it feels like it at the time).

    I've had a similar reaction when I've found that men have fucked me over. I HATE men in general for a little while, aside from a select few good friends, but it fades when rationality kicks in.

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