Is it normal that i am scared about what my mom is doing?

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Hey there!

I am eighteen years old and always worrying about my mother. She's fifty years old, so I know that she knows what she's doing. But sometimes she leaves home to go see friends and I never know when she's coming home and she doesn't answer texts. When she drinks too much, she's not herself and she has a problem with alcohol.

So my question is, is it normal to worry about my mother that much? I'm up to the point where I can barely sleep.

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  • yesnomaybeso
    11 years ago

    I think it is normal to worry about this stuff your mom does mainly because moms are not supposed to be like this and im sorry it is that way :(

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  • Hannible
    10 years ago

    Can you send me her addy? I am about her age LOL

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    11 years ago

    Thank you everyone for your nice comments. I feel relieved about the fact that I'm not alone being scared about that. She started smoking, again, two weeks ago and it's very depleasant...

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  • ILoveJoshHutcherson
    11 years ago

    She's your mom
    She raised you
    Totally normal and good
    It's better than not caring about her
    Tell her how concerned you are about her drinking (when she's in a good mood) and talk for a while
    Try and get her help

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  • Captain_Kegstand
    11 years ago

    Do you happen to be my little brother by chance? No?

    Damn, that sounds like my family!

    It comes to a point where you help you mom out as much as you can, but at the end of the day, she is an adult. You cannot stop her from drinking unless she wants too, and you can't make her decisions for her.

    I am very sorry to hear you have this problem, as my mother was doing intense research at one of the most prestigious facilities in the world, and snapped. Since then she has drank herself into unemployment, and dire health issues. It is hard to watch somebody you love methodically destroy themselves, but the only thing that I have found to do about it is be there to pick her up every time she hits rock bottom. Other then that you will feel powerless to help most of the time. Just remember, even when you are there for her, don't let her drag you down too, keep her and your life separate and balanced.

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  • Mando
    11 years ago

    Is it possible to get a bit of counselling around this or go to an Al-anon session (focuses on effects of other people's drinking)? Constant worry that causes you to lose sleep is no way to live and unlikely to change your mom.

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  • ghanz
    11 years ago

    It might be normal but anything that keeps you from sleeping is a bad thing. Talk to her about how you feel. If she has a problem with booze try and get her help, but she not want help or even admit that she has a problem.

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  • Cheradenine
    11 years ago

    Very normal. It shows character and compassion. Be proud, chin up x

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  • emi.l.y
    11 years ago

    It is completely normal, it's a horrible thing too feel as well, I have the same with my step mum & dad, have yoo tried talking too her? It might help a little x

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