Is it normal that i am replacing my dad with my math teacher?

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My dad was never around while I was young, and still isn't. He never saw me grow up and I don't think that he ever did... Recently I have been getting close with my male math teacher. He knows that I am scared to ask for help because of my fear of being rejected. He helps me at lunch catch up with work that I don't understand. I feel a connection with him. Not like a crush, but as a father. Is it normal? Sometimes I just want to give him a hug and cry in his arms. I never had a dad to do that to. But knowing that I cant just makes me sad. It wouldn't be appropriate. What do I do? Is anyone else like this?

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  • college
    10 years ago

    It sounds like he cares about you, and while it might not be possible for him to be a father to you, he'll probably make an excellent mentor.

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  • emmybear
    10 years ago

    Thankyou. Ive always felt kinds lost or out of place. I have my mom but sometimes shes just not enough. Sometimes I just want to be 'daddy's little girl'. I feel safe with him. Thankyou, I didnt know who to ask or who to tell. I didn't think anyone would understand. I wont get too close. Thankyou so much. :)

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  • tedias
    10 years ago

    My dad is distanced from me in a literal sense of work travels. I play online games with my friends and our maths teacher. He isn't replacing my father, but he's certainly a mentor and influence on me.

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  • anokhi
    10 years ago

    I have been through a very similar thing in my life. One thing I hope you can learn from my experience is don't let yourself get so close to him that you loose yourself in that process.

    I got a very close to a staff member at my school during junior high and it's been 7 years since and I still can't find myself now and if that's not bad enough, that staff member n I do not even have any contact anymore. I miss her like crazy b. Because for the time I can remember she was my "mom" and will always be my mom. But for whatever reason I guess that didn't work. So my suggestion to you is keep the distance because if that relationship doesn't workout you will be so broken that you won't even know what to do with yourself.

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