Is it normal that i am really weird with eye contact?

I cannot keep eye contact with anyone. My boyfriend was trying to look into my eyes last night, and after about a second or less of looking at him I had to look away. I just took quick glances at my surroundings. I looked at him and I said "Sorry, I'm weird with eye contact." He looked like he understood but he also looked a little hurt.

Is this normal? (If you think that you might know why I do this, share your thoughts) (:

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Based on 42 votes (36 yes)
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  • Sinsector

    I'm the exact same way. Sometimes I even feel embarrassed when I'm walking away after a conversation thinking "they probably think I'm weird now because I didn't make much eye contact."

    It gets pretty frustrating for me sometimes. I try so hard to look people in the eyes but it distracts me from what I'm trying to say even though I'm not lying.

    I noticed that its even more difficult when I think the person is attractive. Lol. Oh well.

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  • Dozis

    There are only a few reasons a person would cosciously or subconsciously avoid eye contact: 1)to lie better 2) because having to mind the signals the person gives off through the eyes deconcentrates you. 3) to keep the other person from noticing eventual signs contradicting spoken words and avoid getting an unwanted potentially harmful spoken response. Like: blahblah then looks the other way.5)because he got bloodshot eyes and does not want you to notice he is wasted. 6) because of inadequacy. Being afraid of what you could say and what you could make happen by saying so if you do look the other person in the eye. 7)because looking in the eye generally makes you uncomfortable for not better specified reasons amongst which feeling intimidated by or fearing a possible intimidating or by all means unwanted but predicted response. Either yours or his. Or both. Example:you lie to daddy and there are chances he might find out if you say something confrontative while looking at his inquisitive intimidating eyes. You avoid his gawk so he has to tell you:look at me in the eye while i am talking to you miss! Without eye contact or the ability to decode eye messages some "magics" don't work.

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  • Ghost121

    I do the exact same thing, im trying to my hardest to stop it though^^'

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  • OCDC

    It's normal!
    I'm exactly the same; it really bothers teachers, as they think I'm not listening properly, or being rude.
    I'm not sure what the reason is, but I just hate it! :S

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    • Melodeath

      Same here. I have a very difficult time keeping eye contact. By the way, I've seen your posts before. I thought now would be a great time to say that I really love your username! OCDC. haha

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      • OCDC

        Thank you! :D

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  • carrieonbag

    I do that too and it got me a job in a Japanese company because they did not like eye contact! When I talk to my neighbors I look askew and they always turn around to see what I am looking at. It makes me uncomfortable.I am not dishonest. They always tell you in sales to make eye contact. This is a falsehood! The most dishonest sales people I know were always making eye contact they could do it even when they were lying through their teeth! It's a trick. I am just shy about eye contact...I look away a lot.

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  • Geneva5

    Buy a welding mask and glue it to your head. Problem solved.

    Heroin might help also.

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  • lisalyn

    I am the same way. I know it's because I have lite colored green eyes and as a child people use to say "your eyes are too weird don't look at me"

    As a adult all I hear is " your eyes are so pretty" so I always look down now

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  • shezzdog

    People with aspergers or autism don't make eye contact well?

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    • zchristian

      Aspergers is Autism and yes you are right...

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    • carrieonbag

      I don't think a whole society has Autism. I think perhaps that is a trait of autism or aspergers but I do not have either. I get distracted when I am talking when I make too much eye contact. Maybe I have ADD . Let's put a label on everything people do and give it a psychological condition. I was a psych major and this labeling is such BS. You guys watch too much TV.Dr Phil everybody just labels people with disorders what good does it do. Now this person will think she has a disorder because it has a name to it. OCD, ADD whatever...

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  • zchristian

    I always get a odd unpleasant feeling when keeping eye contact for more than 3-5 secounds...

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  • BurnaBaby27

    I do it too and I think it's perfectly normal.
    I feel like it's distracting and awkward. If I'm trying to tell a story, I can't focus if I'm staring at one spot too long. I end up drifting off, losing focus in my vision and concentrating more on the fact that my vision has been blurred than worrying about what I was saying and in turn, losing my train of thought.

    If I'm listening to someone and doing it, I'm thinking that they're wondering why my eyes are hopping all over the place as I figure out which eye I'm supposed to look into, being unable to decide, and bouncing my focus from one eye to the other.

    I wish I knew the trick to looking in someones eyes. I read somewhere that you should try looking at the persons eyebrows, but I find that incredibly distracting too.

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