Is it normal that i am platonically in love with my best friend?

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I live with my best friend and we live across the hall from our other close friends. I am closest with my roommate, she is the person that I talk to and spend the most time with out of anyone in my life. We really connect on a soulmate level but I truly have no sexual feelings for her; I am straight. Is it possible to be in love with someone but have no sexual element? She is who I see myself living with in the future, I can't imagine getting married or anything and having our lives change. Is this normal?

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Based on 59 votes (51 yes)
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  • RomeoDeMontague
    10 years ago

    Loving someone platonically means you love them like family or a close friend.

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    • Scruggsboy
      10 years ago

      I am sorry to say this but you are a perv and I am sorry for saying that

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      • RomeoDeMontague
        10 years ago

        Yeah go troll someone else moron. I am not falling for it.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    How are you straight if you want to spend the rest of your life with her, without involving a man in your life? If you're not gonna have sex with her how are you gonna satisfy your urges?What has marriage have to do with a non sexual friendship? You can have both. I don't see why that would be a problem. If you think a simple platonic relationship with another woman can make up or compensate for the lack of a sexual relationship with a guy i seriously doubt you're straight. There's no sexual attraction between you and her? I sounds more like you're asexual, and a platonic relationship is what makes most sense to you. But then don't pretend you are straight. Straight women are sexually attracted to men, and at some point in their life they feel the need to pursue some kind of sexual activity with them, or a relationship.

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    • Sunnygirl
      10 years ago

      I am sexually attracted to men, I have been with men and I enjoy it.

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      • [Old Memory]
        10 years ago

        Why would you think that a relationship with a man would damage your connection with your friend? And how is that platonic relationship that you have with her more fulfilling than one with a guy you could basically have the same deep connection with, AND being also sexually attracted to? It doesn't make any sense. You probably have a very low sex drive and sex isn't a priority to you.

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        • randomthoughts
          10 years ago

          She never said that a relationship with a guy will damage her connection with her friend O.o Also in regards to the remark "And how is that platonic relationship that you have with her more fulfilling than one with a guy you could basically have the same deep connection with, AND being also sexually attracted to?" Have u ever considered the fact that she may be one of those few people who DON'T NEED sex? She may be very content living with her bestie forever. Not everyone is sex driven ya know! Gosh

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          • [Old Memory]
            10 years ago

            She said: "I can't imagine getting married or anything and having our lives change." So she really does believe that a relationship would damage her friendship. And that's what i don't understand. I know some people are not sex driven but that doesn't mean they should give up on it for something else that has nothing to do with sex or commitment.
            For fuck's sake! I just want people to be more precise and logical when they explain something. Is that too much to ask?

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            • randomthoughts
              10 years ago

              Quote "I can't imagine getting married or anything and having our lives change." This has nothing to do with the statement you put forward that said she believes that a relationship would damage her friendship. Like how the hell do you get that from what she said- doesn't make sense man, ur just implying things which aren't real. Also she is not giving up because in order to give up she would have to had a desire in the first place as in this case getting married and /or having a sexual relationship but, she is happy with just having her friend in her life thus no desire for a committed relationship with a man. I agreed with the fact that people need to be more precise and logical but sometimes people don't mention everything therefore we should not imply what's not said cause it could be incorrect.

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    • randomthoughts
      10 years ago

      If she says that she doesn't feel anything sexual then she is obviously not bi or gay. I find it strange that you think that she is weird if she does not want to have a relationship this life or get married. I believe it is becoming more and more common that some people would rather have a strong/close friendship without the hassles of a relationship. She could be asexual, well so what! That's a good thing! At least she is not driven by her genitalia like majority of people are. I think she should be admired. Besides friendships are waaay better than relationships.

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      • [Old Memory]
        10 years ago

        I was trying to point out that there were a lot of contradictions in the whole story, not that it's wrong. It's the fact that she said that she doesn't want to pursue a relationship with a man for the sake of her platonic relationship with her friend, and at the same time claiming to be straight, which doesn't make sense to me. It's her choice of words that i have a problem with. Not her lifestyle. If something sounds irrational and has no justification or logic behind it, i point it out. I'm in no way judging it. And what's wrong with being driven by your genitalia? This is how we are wired. We are sexual creatures and the need to pursue sexual interaction is ingrained in our DNA. It's just natural instinct.This is how we perpetuate our species. It's essential to our existence. The fact that she claims to be straight is what i find mind boggling. I think people should be more precise when they describe themselves and what they pursue in life. Because a misguided description about them could be really confusing to people who actually want to be involved in their life as a partner. Therefor they should know about their priorities, to avoid leading people on.

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  • lookatme
    10 years ago

    normal

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  • Legion
    10 years ago

    just because there is no desire for sex doesn't mean you can't have romantic feelings for them. if you feel like you want to kiss them or start feeling a certain way around them, it may be more than platonic. but, you can be close to someone and still love them platonically.

    anyways, platonic love is love you share with a family member or a close friend. almost everyone is like that. i have a friend whose like an older brother to me. your normal.

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    • Legion
      10 years ago

      also, marriage isn't a requirement if you are in a relationship. i mean, Gene simmons has been with shannon tweed over 20 years and they aren't married.

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      • DragonQueen
        10 years ago

        No he's with Ace Freeley. I saw them kiss.

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        • RoseIsabella
          10 years ago

          I think I just vomited a little in my mouth.
          :-P

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          • DragonQueen
            10 years ago

            Yes, it is a vile display, I know. It makes me ill too.

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        • Legion
          10 years ago

          lol

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  • rachel.dsouza
    10 years ago

    same with me.

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  • davesumba
    10 years ago

    No, that is preposterous, you must be sexually attracted to someone to be able to love and be close to them, you are definitely gay..............

    But on a serious note, you win most stupid and pointless post of the day.

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