Is it normal that i am obsessive over my boyfriend?

i have been dating my bf for 10 months. i have come to realize i am obsessive now. i never used to be at all, like it felt like we met eachother half way in the relationship. Now i feel like i do all the work and since i care more about him now and wanna talk more i feel like he doesn't care as much? Little things he used to do he doesn't do anymore and he used to always wanna hangout with me and not his friends. Now he wants to hangout with them and i don't mind bc there his friends but i get jelous ver easily. I wanna spend everyday with him and i don't mean to be like that but i am. i cry if i don't hangout with him for 3 days or i get upset and mad if he takes 20 minutes to txt back. i think the reason i'm like this though is because he ever used to be like this. He says he still cares about me and loves me and tells me that still but he doesn't show it. i want him to prove that he does. I try to talk to him about it and be like "act the way you used to" or I'll ask "why did you change? your not like how you used to be." he gets mad though when i tell him that he's changed. i wish i could get back to the first couple months we dated and stay there forever. Back then i didn't have to do as much work in the relationship. I don't know if this makes sense but i miss him. I'm still dating him and even when i'm with him i miss him. I guess i just got really attatched to him and i just turned 15 and i'm a freshmen and he's a senior and is 18. we've been dating for 10 months. i just don't wanna be this tied down on someone at my age but it's too late. he was never the dating type before me like he only 'talked' to girls. i'm his first 'official' gf. i think that might be some of the problem like he's not used to being in a relatioship but he should be now though because we've been together for 10 months right? I love him and it's to the point if someone txts me and it's not him i get pissed because i thought it was gonna be him. i don't talk to barely any other guys because they just annoy me. Please help me lose this obsessive issue i have.

btw i'm sorry everyone this is so long. If your reading this thank you very much for taking the time to :)

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  • claire316

    I must say it sucks when your are into someone more than they are you. Relationships do evolve and unfortunately, the newness wares off. You gotta realize, guys are just different from us. They truly do not think like us. Things we obsess over, don't even cross their mind. If you know he still loves you, then just back off a little. NOBODY likes to be smothered. It'll drive'em away in a heartbeat. If you back off a little and stop questioning his every move and not "care" so much, you will be suprised how he'll come around. It's a constant game we have to play.
    Good luck, Sister!!

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  • Kayli

    You are so very young! Don't stress out about this situation too much. I'm not going to say that you aren't going to be together forever because you could be but enjoy being young! Go out with your girlfriends. Maybe stop trying so hard and he will come to you. Good luck hun!

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  • Lady.Pam

    Claire, I was reading what you wrote... Sorry I don't have a comment on the story other than the honey moon stage does wear off too fast... But what Claire says makes sense and I think I will take the advice for myself lol, thanks girl :)

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  • Plumpy

    Omg I started feeling this way tool sometime back but I've been dating mine for like about three years now and I must say a LOT has changed and it's kinda hard to deal with and accept but after a while u sorda get the hang of it:)
    Sweetie if I were you , I'd break up with him I know it's hard to let go and stuff but do it NOW before it's too late .. I was 15 when I got together with this guy I'm dating and to be honest I've wanted to break up so many times but it's just reallly too hard to let go of something precious if you get me? But in ur case like someone mentioned above u guys are at different stages in life.. Ure 15 Nd he's like 18 .. So u guys probably aren't at the same level of understanding - tbh if I were u I'd break it off cos it might get worse I mean he's like 18 and when he starts goin out clubbing and shit ur guna get insecure girly ! Trust me,I'm not saying u definitely will but there's a possibility !:( but it's up to you reallly... But I reckons should b.u before it gets worse :(
    Anw.... Good luck! And don't beat itself up over this alright, ur only 15 enjoy ur life really:) enjoy other guys - flirt, go out! And yes back off a lil and you'll see how he'll come crawling back t you!!!! X

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  • Millermiller<3

    I feel the same for my guy and we have also been dating for 10 months this I think is normal

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  • fullhouse

    Happens..Its very normal.Just relax and take time for yourself..I wish my girlfriend was obsessive like you..lol Its actually me who feels obsessed about her and i sometimes kinda gave her a hard time when she didnt recieve my calls but then i realised she needs her space and things are well now.tc :D

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  • Sabaky

    Your not obsessed just protective

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  • tygeronherbed

    hey girl
    okay
    when i w you age i had a bf who was 18 too
    i loved him so much, i felt like the whole world had been crated just so we would be together. but eventually things started to get less magical after he graduated from high school. he was going to parties and staying out late. he had a car and a fake id and all his friends were older and i was just his little 15 year old girl friend who ha an 11 o clock curfew. we broke up and i was devastated but it was the right thing....the first few months of dating always seems too good to be true, things fizzle out, especially when you and he are at different stages in life.

    i would just break it off if you're unhappy, but if you do stay with him, don't be surprised if he breaks your heart.

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  • jben4president

    you guys are probably going to break up when he gets bored with you and finds someone better. Im sure youre a great girl and all but your a little young for him to latch on to.

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