Is it normal that i am not confident around guys i like?

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whenever i like a guy , i always feel unconfident so i try to avoid dealing with him in the first place and this makes me miss out on many chances. i dont know why this happens to me ; im beautiful and dress nicely and take care of my appearence but im not sociable and i have very few friends and im not popular , also handsome rich guys are always my type and im always afraid if the guy i like gets to know me he wont find me beautiful or he wont like my personality so i back away before i get hurt. once a guy i liked very much and he liked me too so one day i was sitting with my friends and he knew them so he came to sit with us but i was very mean and unrespectable to him and i didnt talk or smile or even say hi so he thought i am arrogant and i regret that i wasn't nice to him. it happens alot to me that when a guy i like approaches me i act very mean and impolite and i dont know why i do that. im afraid i'll end up with someone i dont like and ill miss out on many chances if i keep doing this. what do i do?

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  • agoodlovejoy
    7 years ago

    Im the same way. Trust me your ways are the way to be. It only means you are not easy, not a victim, not someones baby mama. You expect the best and when you have him you want him to take you seriously. Because if he makes a fool out of YOU in believing in anyone you may never forgive yourself. Thats why i get men to take me on many dates to extravagant locations and pay my bills to see if they will. If not he is just looking for sex and worthless timing. So keep it up you will feel a little lonely at times but as you age atleast every type of guy will not have lain with you. No regrets no reputation....smart girl

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  • Ellenna
    7 years ago

    Your behaviour doesn't happen to you, it's something you do and you can choose to change it if you want a different outcome.

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  • riffraffy
    7 years ago

    Women are attracted to men who are higher value than they are. But this same gap which causes the attraction is also the source of their insecurity. Try embracing your feminimity and this insecurity will fade.

    Be charming.

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  • sandnigga
    7 years ago

    Maybe you act like that because like you said, your afraid to get to know him, maybe cause your not very social?

    Like your instinctively trying to push him away from you.

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