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There is nothing anyone could ever say to me that would upset me or make me think less of myself. I usually just stare at them blankly while my mind is thinking about how strange they are.
To tell the truth, anyone compared to my mother is only an amateur, so maybe my abusive childhood was beneficial.
I'd be interested in your thoughts.
Perhaps it's because you don't care enough about the people who are delivering the insults?
If a person I didn't like or care about in any way called me a pathetic, rotting c*nt it wouldn't have impact upon me at all. However if someone I genuinely cared about and respected called me something as slight as "boring" it would hurt me much more.
Unless it is coming from somebody that I hold in high respect, I am the same as you. Thick skinned is the way to be with most of the world, although I let my emotions show to those that I trust.
I suspect that your mothers hostility towards you stems from the loss of sexual attention from your father, you being his new outlet for these desires, it is only natural that she despised you.
not only normal -having a thick "skin" and being immune to emotional outburst even makes you superior! Whatever made you this way really did the trick.
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your a mother fucking asswipe dick cock shit crap faggit fat bitch cunt chode damn ass tithead who sits at his computer crying about the insults ppl tell you yet you say online they dont bother you cuz your as fat as you mother and i bet you blow dry your fatrolls!(Chuck Norris hates you)
Good job. You've learned how to deflect emotional pain. I really wish I had this ability...oh wait...
Well to the OP I read from the comments how you had/have a bf? What about insults from him? Would they have an effect on you at all? If you are jealous then I would imagine negative comments from him would then have to be somewhat effective.
I can also understand what you mean in regards to insults or what others think. My parents were great parents, never offensive or abusive and even an "insult" from them wouldnt have much of an effect on me. Anything else from anyone else is just laughable.
I've never had an insult from him, not that I'm perfect but if he doesn't like something about me, he can leave because the door isn't locked. That would be his own free will and I'd shrug my shoulders, go out with the girls and probably pick up another one.
It wouldn't kill me.
Look for a pattern. Are the insults random or of a consistent nature? There is often truth in consistency. For instance, if people often call you an asshole, jerk or whatever it may be the truth.
Or you could be in a self-delusional state of mind. You should seriously consider the possibility that you just are not fitting in with rest of society.
I don't know, I think I would be able to make you very down in an emotional sense. I would have to know you in reality and not online to do it, though.
There was this girl that thought of herself as the "pretty girl", and she was pretty, but she was very negative to the people around her, so I took her down a couple pegs by pretending to be friends with her and constantly impply negative things about her to her intentionally. Not heard much about her since, but apparantly she deleted her Facebook because of the things I had said to her. I was told by her friend that she decided to delete her account because of the reasons I made her feel.
I think that anybody can get insulted and dragged down, it might just take a higher level of negativity to do so.
I'm not negative towards anyone and I know exactly who and what I am. My mother's emotional abuse has taught me many lessons, one of which is never to reveal my weakness.
My one weakness is jealousy over my bf and although he is aware that I don't like him flirting none of our female friends would ever guess.
I think the others are right, I might have to value your opinion but in truth I don't value anyone's, especially if it relates to me and how I appear to other people. Maybe I might reconsider how I was doing something, following their advice but I could never take a personal insult seriously from anyone.
As I said, everyone's only an amateur!
Although I agree with everything you say, I would like to add that there's absolutely nothing wrong with showing your weaknesses. I think it's a sign of strength if someone can proudly display their flaws :)
I wasn't trying to say you are negative to people, and I apologize if that's how it sounded, I was just trying to give an example while involving my reasons for doing what I did to her, otherwise people would of thought I done it to someone that didn't deserve it.
I wouldn't assume that people don't know your weakneses, people always find a way to do so, and if one of them are jealousy, people catch on to thoe types of weaknesses quite easily.
I think that the jealousy is something you can fix, and so that it isn't a weakness. I would guess that since you're jealous you might think that your partner might find someone better than you? Not saying that he thinks there is, just wondering if those are the types of things that come with the jealousy. I think I might be right, but I can't be 100% certain. I just think that if someone is jealous of their lover flirting that they feel a bit deprived of the love the partner gives to others that should be given to you, his partner.
I would have to agree about petty insults such as name calling, etc. But once someone wears you down due to manipulations and emotional abuse, those petty insults start to be 100% worse that you were before your emotional state was torn down, if that makes sense.
I think that may actually be my problem in that I don't have a high level of emotion, infact I'm not emotional at all. I don't argue back, I don't rant, I don't let off steam, I'm almost numb.
I stare blankly because I can't actually work out WHY anyone would try to put another person down and also because I know they are only wasting their breath on me. There must be some deep psychological reason people feel the need to do this?
I couldn't actually tell you any insults I've received except one guy told his gf I made a pass at him. On that occasional I burst out laughing. It was so pathetic that he thought he was so handsome but everyone knew it was more than extremely unlikely. Probablility = 0.
I think my jealousy is based on the fact that he should want to be with me and if not, well just let me know. Don't play games, move on.
From what you've written, it sounds to me like you're emotionally detached from virtually everyone. Another way of saying it would be closed off.
Perhaps because of your history with your mother, you have a wall up around you which means even in your relationships you don't allow yourself to be emotionally involved with or reliant upon other people, even if you appear to other people to be. That means these people can't hurt you, because you don't really care for these people - even your boyfriend; as you say, if he walked out "you'd shrug your shoulders, go out with the girls and probably pick up another one."
I would have to dissagree with the first part, otherwise you wouldn't of posted this. You may be distant from your emotions, but I wouldn't say you're numb, especially since you admitted to being jealous in a certain situation.
It's a dog eat dog world, people do it to find themselves as the alpha of their surroundings, and others do it just to hurt people.
I also have to say that your third paragraph shows that you aren't really emotionally numb, so I wouldn't worry about that.
I am the same way, anyone even family can say anything to me or about me and all I say is why are you hating?? And they have nothing to say after that,, do your normal.