Is it normal that i am miserable with my fiancee?

um...it's normal that you hate your fiancé if this is how you live, but no - you should be in love with him. If you aren't...DO NOT MARRY HIM. Marriage is challenging enough if you are actually in love and have common values and goals. If you don't why the heck would you want to spend a few years hitched? (i say a few years, because there's no way you'll make it in the long haul...just pointing this out.) As for his daughter, she's part of the package (at least for now).

Love 'em, or leave 'em, baby!

awww... im very sorry you feel like that. But you just said you have just had a baby, it could be that maybe you are going through postnal depression and research has shown that men also suffer it too.

Whats causing this is your lack of communication. you need to talk to him, sit him down and tell him how you feel. Dont talk to him as your fiancee, but as your best friend. Tell him that, tell him you need a friend to talk to and that you want him to listen to you. Men don't tend to make the first move, so you have too. Sit down, tell him how you feel and if he turns into a big asshole, see if you can stay with your parents for a week or so, so you can both have some pace to reflect on what you both really want, and PLEASE don't stay with each other because of your baby (i know that would be a good thing) but the baby wont grow up feeling any better if you two are constantly arguing or not talking. Its wont be a healthy environment for the baby.

Cominucation is the key, start communicating, tell him how you feel, then listen to him and what he feels, see if you two are still on the same ground are you were when you first got together. Once you have established that you ARE on the same grounds, then start doing the little things together, go for walks, take your baby and have a nice walk. Have movie night in, make some popcorn (and you can make it yourself a big bag is 1.20 and that will last you ages). Give each other massages,light some candles, and try and rspark that passion again. But remeber, this will not be done unless communication starts off.

Good luck honey xx

You choose how I live your life. Can you except this for the rest of your life? I think you know what you need to do you just want other people to tell you.

I can't imagine marrying any guy I dated at 17. Disturbing thought...

I think it is pretty normal. My suggestion get out of the relationship and never have another long term relationship again. Best way to live

Show him this. Talk to him. Be honest. Let him know you aren't happy. Try your best to make it work. If he doesn't care about any of this break up and move on.

You both need couples therapy or you are just putting off the inevitable, good luck with your choices

Fiance? Is this the way you want to spend the rest of your life?

Lift your baby and get the hell out of there!

Do not waste another minute of your young life and do not ever consider marrying this fool.

Read a wee quote yesterday "If he doesn't treat you like a princess, he's not a prince."

You have your whole life ahead of you. Please leave and start living it.

Do not make your decision based on these people saying "stay with him". "you need to leave him". Do not let other people make the decision for you. What you need to do is talk it over with him, and from there on, make the decision YOU want to make. My husband and I are the same way, he stays in the bedroom and I in the living room. I am suffering from depression, and I talk to him and tell him that I dont like it we spend so much time apart, so he will come out and spend time with me and vise versa. Just talk with him about it. and see how it goes from there. :)

If he's not cheating then I say theres hope. It's not good that your miserable, but it's a good sign you need something to change between you two.

Take everyones advice and leave him, if you want to be truely happy as well leave the baby.

38 and 25 Seems Love Marriage.. where were you when you were taking the decision to Marry? well let us know about the past a lil to imagine what happened that made your life the way it is now. Is it this way from the start or was it different in the start? What was it then and what is it now?

You dont need anyone to confide in, you need to make sure his house is clean and his laundry is done and he has something to eat when he gets back from working out at the boxing gym. Working out is hungry business.

Go make him a sandwich right now.