Is it normal that i am keeping my relationship a secret?

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I have been keeping my relationship with my girlfriend a secret for 6 months because my family is racist. Im caucasian and she is african american. She is the love of my life and ive never met anybody like her. She has been thinking that it is really weird that i haven't introduced her to my family. but she introduced me to her family. they all love me and think im a good guy. i have really good relationships with her brothers, sister and dad and mom. I want to tell my family but i feel like they wont ever speak to me again. I love my family. I was raised by racist parents and i never really understood why they hated people who weren't white so much. I had to always hide my friendships with black, asian, and latino people a secret. but my girlfriend is someone who i really care about and want to possibly marry one day. so is hiding my relationship with my girlfriend from my family normal?

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    I always kept anyone I cared about away from my family - I couldn't be bothered fighting with my mother's hatred and criticism. I only introduced my husband 6 weeks before we got married - after going out with him for 6 years!

    It may be a little early to explain to her your real reason but suffice to say you are protecting her and saving yourself any aggro! You really don't need your family's opinions to create a cloud over your happiness. Tell your gf, that you're sorry but your protecting her as they're not really people she would like to meet. I'm sure she'll trust your judgement. Life is too short to go looking for trouble!

    Enjoy yourselves and one day you may get married. That would mean you create your own family with her, and basically you leave the old one behind - so their views don't really matter, they can like it or lump it!

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Be careful she might start feeling that yoo are ashamed of her :/ x

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  • RidingSheepOnClouds
    12 years ago

    So, your friendships aren't important...?

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  • Lynxikat
    12 years ago

    ...You haven't told her that your family is racist? You've been dating her for half a year, you probably should at this point.

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  • gutta269
    12 years ago

    Tellyour parents how you feel if this is the women you may want to marry someday then there's know reason to hide y'all relationship if your parents can't accept her than it is what it is and hopefully they will grow up and come around if not that's there loss stop carrying that burden of hiding y'all relationship cause that could become the cause fo your relationship to end.

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  • mcmzs5
    12 years ago

    Well 1st of all you are doing the right thing by continuing your relationship with her. You are a grown and if your parent can't respect your choices then maybe you need to focus on what u like and want. Its a very selfish act but racism isn't nothing new. Its not right. Marry her..don't let your life filled dream go by. (YOLO) YOU ONLY LIVE ONCE!

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