Is it normal that i am jealous of my best friend?

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- my best friend is good at everything

- I only "win" her in 2 ways. i can play the guitar, and Im good at sports; i play soccer.

- recently, when she joined a sport team, i felt insanely jealous, afraid that she will be physically fitter than me

- she also played soccer with a group of guys, which i've always wanted to do but never dared to, which induced more jealousy. apparently she was good, even though she declares she dislikes soccer.

- I also get jealous because she rejects physical contact from me and with me

- she often touches and grabs other people, other friends, but never me. i feel kind of sad and find myself unable to communicate properly with her.

- she is also one of the student leaders in school, but that group is very exclusive, and i passed up the opportunity to join the student leaders. now she often has events and activities related to this. i feel very excluded, and upset because im excluded. is this jealousy too?

-she snatches her hand away if i try to touch it or pull at it. i did it before, and she didn't seem to mind, but now she does.

- i got really insecure because she almost wanted to learn guitar too, and i was upset that she would 'take over' this thing i was proud of, and be better than me at it.

- is it normal to be so jealous? to feel so possessive about these 2 things im good at?

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  • Vyzr
    13 years ago

    There are many possibilities. I will list them.

    -She thinks you're an alien.
    -If she acts wierd around you all the sudden then you might have said something odd to her to make her uncomfortable around you or she fell in love with you for some reason.
    -She's accually a crossdresser who fell in love with you.
    -She thinks you have aids or an std.
    -She thinks you want to kill her.
    -She is working for a secret organization and doesnt want you to get involved?
    -She is working for a secret organization and knows that you have some sort of power that hurts her when you touch her because its the opposing power that she has.
    -She doesnt like you.

    To solve this porblem ask her why or stop talking to her. And also for the jealousy thing beat her in what she's not good at. But you cant be best at everything so just do what you feel you can do. And stop taking steroids if you do because the hormones are like the things that make you competitive.

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  • MercedesBenz
    13 years ago

    It does not sound like best friends is how I would describe this relationship.

    I think you need to step back and look at the big picture. Quit being jealous of all of the things she does, and focus on what you are good at. You're expelling more energy focusing on her living her life, than it would for you to start working on yourself and becoming better at the things you like. You're just sitting still, spinning your wheels. Figure out what you need to do to get started on living and progressing in your life. A friend should be an addition or a helpful thing in your life, not something that impedes all growth. If you find this relationship is not healthy and you're not growing as a person because of it, then you need to just move on.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    I could get what your talking about but you should realise there are alot more people who are better at everything you do just as much as there are alot of people you can do better than
    so dont feel that much jelous because she might be good at these things but that doesnt make her the best.
    I think i can help you out with something. Try find out what things shes not so good at (there is always something everyone cant do) it might take a long or a short while to do but if you feel the need to best her at something you should think it worth the time. After you find out what it is she cant do try and learn the thing she cant do so much that it makes her feel the same way
    this might sound completely stupid and retarded but you both lead a simple life from the sound of it it sounds like she is only doing things that only need concentration to do
    so try crime. Im not saying go out and kill somebody or even hurt somebody but it could be the one thing she cant do so well.

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  • TwoThumbs
    10 years ago

    Oh...this is an easy fix. Grow up.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    i like that you can express your feelings, that takes guts, tell her your thoughts like you wrote here,you might be the loser or she might surprise you

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago

      thanks ppl, i know its the wrong way to feel but i can't seem to get myself to think in a postive way. I did ask why, but she just seems to find it "fun", and there aren't any other reasons. Yes, I am going to take the advice and try hard to improve at the 2 things i don't want her to beat me at. I can't discuss this though, because she would find it stupid for me to get jealous at all, and i don't want her to misunderstand anything here.

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  • chaosdragoon1
    13 years ago

    This is why females can't be get along.

    Did you ever think that maybe she is intimidated by YOU? Or possibly shes trying to do the same things that you do because she looks up to you?

    Before drowning in your own jealousy and doing something stupid, how about you ask her why she got into your superior hobbies.

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