Is it normal that i am holding so much resentment towards my parents?

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Just like every other teenager, I hate when my parents tell me what to do. Especially when it comes to doing chores, and them telling me I'm ''behind for my age''.

The truth is, I've looked up these ''Is it normal I get angry at my parents when...?'' questions a lot, and it all comes down to people saying ''They care about you, and they just want to protect you.''

Those answers piss me off, because to top it off, my father has hit and kicked me on several occasions. (I remember a case of psychological abuse dating back to when I was 4 years old) And this whole time, my mother has stood by, and done nothing, because she says her father was a lot worse. She has slapped me a couple of times herself. ''They just want to protect me.'' Right. Although it's been a while since an incident of the sort has occured, I can't get rid of the resentment I hold for them. And then my mother has the nerve to tell me I'm the one being manipulative/emotionally abusive, etc.

I'm a good student. I want to go into Health. And I know I will need to function as an adult someday. I just hate it when THEY give me orders.

Have I been abused, and is it normal that I feel so angry towards them?

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    I'm 100% with you - although I was beaten regularly and told I was a useless piece of sh!t daily!!

    My dad's dead now but I recall an incident when I sewing buttons onto a coat and he came into the room to watch tv. He told me to get up and help my mom - just as he was about to sit down on his @ss!! Totally illogical to me - but after that beating, I left home while I was still at school :o(

    My mom is now rewriting history - that I did NO chores at all, while she kept producing children. She was either tired with a pregnancy or recovering after having a baby, and I was left to see to everything while my dad was away in the navy.

    All I can tell you is do well at school and get out at the first opportunity. You will be able to move on and forgive them when you don't have to live / see / speak to them as much. I've tried to convince myself, that as they were both uneducated, they were doing the best they knew. Not the best by my standards but by theirs - as they had none :o(

    It's tough but you will only truly be yourself once you get away from them.

    Good luck to you!

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  • bananaface
    12 years ago

    It's normal to feel resentment for anyone who harms you, regardless of whether they're your parents or not.

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  • Crudhouse
    12 years ago

    I got beaten until I was about 13. I'm 30 and my dad's dead now. No feelings of resentment at all for my dad or my mom. You appreciate your parents more as you get older. Who else in the world would feed you for a couple of decades and clothe you.

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