Is it normal that i am depressed about never finding love

Baby don't ever give up on love, it comes to you when you least expect it. You still young so don't rush it, you need to live your life until you're ready to settle down.

Dude, I'm 32 and still not married. You shouldn't settle for less than what you deserve and want, but at the same time don't do what I did and be super picky about every guy you meet...or you'll be like me, wondering how good I can possibly look in a wedding dress at 35+.

At 21, it might be a bit premature to believe your chances of meeting the right person are the same as the lottery.
Steven Stills said it pretty well in his song;"Love the one you're with".

That passion isn't exactly the same as love. Passion in a couple will always dwindle over time, no matter how passionate you were at the start. The passion you feel is infatuation, lust, limerance... whatever you want to call it. Passion is like the activation energy to kickstart a relationship, but you don't need it and in the long term the raging passion that you feel now will disappear and be replaced by a different kind of love.

I suppose my point is that a mutually passionate relationship is great fun, but it isn't necessary if you want to find love.

Yeah I suppose you can be depressed about that, or you can take heart in the little moments of love and beauty you share with others, in friendship, in nature and the self fulfilment of your personal journey throughout these things.

You feel attracted to people that don't care over people that do, then are shocked when you haven't found someone?

-Sigh- Sometimes you females irritate me, there's no logic behind this.

I found your issue. "I have come to terms with that it is highly unlikely that I will meet someone that I am truly passionate about and who feels the same way about me." That's a belief. Your beliefs affect your thoughts, which affect your emotions, which yes, affect things like body language and outcome you get. Because you believe that, you will think negative thoughts and thus feel bad. When you feel bad, no high quality guy is going to want to be with you. This may be happening subconsciously or you're just unaware of the relationship between beliefs, thoughts, emotions, and what you get from it. The key is to change your belief. You need to find and focus on the evidence that suggests you will find someone who you're madly in love with and who feels the same way about you. Also do things that make you feel happy. When you are feeling good, other people will gravitate towards you. You are much more likely to find an amazing guy then. I've been there. For a long time, I struggle with a faulty belief system that wasn't good for me. I always say when you change the way you think, you change your life. It's not easy especially if you keep encountering evidence to support your faulty belief. When you believe what you believe now, what happens is you'll often only focus on the things that support that belief and you may in fact overlook a guy that is totally into you and that you are into as well. Another tip. Give it a chance. Love doesn't happen overnight. Especially for girls where it takes time for their emotions to develop. Expect it to be amazing but don't pay attention to the movies and crap like that. So yes why don't you just give someone who you're moderately interested a chance. That's what I did with my ex and we ended up having an amazing relationship while it lasted. Hope this helps.

I think it is normal. But hey dont think about it too much... great things happen when we least expect it to. We are in the same situation somehow because there are guys who like me but Im not really into them. I have very high standards and if this guy does not meet up my standards.. I wouldnt want to settle for him just for the sake of being in a relationship. I would rather wait than settle for less. For now, Im just enjoying the opportunity of being single.

Yeah exactly, you never really know who else is playing games cause your too caught up in your own. Good luck though, only time will tell.

Ok that defo is exactly like me. I realized that was the pattern to.

My problem is on the rare occasion there is someone, I can't have them and I'm so obsessive too (not that they would ever know).

Anytime I think about like marriage my bubble bursts immediately cause I just can't see myself loving someone, and especially someone who loves me.

Borderline Personality Disorder was my answer, might not be the same for you though.

We can only really wait a few more years and see. But by 25 if I don't find someone with some potential fuck it.

I could have written this. You need to ask yourself if there's anything deeper to it.
Were you the one always ending the relationships?
Why/How long were you sticking around with these guys?
Did you ever have an ulterior motive?
If it's just that you haven't met THAT guy yet then it's cool, but it could be an indication that you are the problem.
So you should probably look back and analyse all those relationships, so you can fix yourself before the next one come on.
I've felt/feel unlovable but after a bit of research on Google can you imagine, I found out what was happening.
Again I felt asexual at one point too, but my fantasies are forever sexual so I was sure it probably weren't the case.

I think you are rather asexual. And the fact that you're interested in people that don't like you back is more like a defense mechanism that acts subconsciously. You don't really like those people either but you're feeling more safe because there is no chance that those people will show interest back and act on it. I'm pretty sure if one of those people you pretend to like would try to approach you in an attempt to know you better you would run away and become less attracted to them. Cause you weren't attracted to them from the beginning. You just try to find excuses for your lack of sexual interest in people by trying to focus your attention on unapproachable people and situations that don't involve the premise of a potential mutual interest.

You don't need love at your age. Just fuck around with hot dudes who have money. That's what I did. I didn't get married until I was 27. Have fun in the meantime. Go get a hot tattoo or something and make the dude pay for it. If your pretty enough he will, he just wants to get some of that cho cha! Love takes years.

It could be worse I found love with a hooker.

Just be patient, the universe will deliver

I always like guys I can't have. But I'm sure you'll find love one day. Probably when your least expecting too :)