Is it normal that i am depressed about my boyfriend?

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years. We used to live in the same city until I went to college and he joined the military in 2010. We got to see each other once in 2011. When were physically together he'll be the sweet person I remember him to be. He is perfect! Everything that a girl would want in a man, but there's one flaw that's been bugging me for a year: he rarely makes the effort to talk to me. We would talk every 3 or 4 days through text messages, and I always have to ask beforehand if I can call him. I have to send the first text message most of the time. I don't get it, when we were both in the same city we would talk 24/7.

He is "property" of the government now, but I know for a fact that he has some time to have a life. He is possibly cheating on me, but the way I know him would totally disagree with it. He might be losing interest. He might be too busy. He might not need to talk to me as much as I do. I don't know. I have told him numerous times what I feel, that we've been lacking in communication for too long. Unfortunately, the next day nothing changes.

I've been feeling more depressed by the day. Lately those feelings have been turning into hate and anger. I tried to be patient and understanding, yet a year of little communication is just too long!

Is there something wrong with me or him?

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  • chatter289

    In all honesty honey, I had the same thing, started dating a guy from the states, I live in the uk and then he moved back to the states and I was pretty much the only trying, spending money buying Skype calling money to phone his cell and stuff and in the end he ended it and a few weeks later he wanted me back again. I met someone else, since I'm at uni. And now have been with my current bf for 2 and a half years. My ex was my first 'love' but, in all honest, realllyy long distane relationships don't last. My ex was the PERFECT bf when we were together, he would put my needs before anything but when he moved away he turned into a horrible person, very disrespectful and I would never stand for anyone who wold disrespect me. Never expected it from him but there's go, distance did that. Also found out he was spending time with another girl, while all the time he kept telling me he was training for the marines. Yes he was in the army too.

    Honestly honey, don't waste your time. I do believe this relationship has run its course. It is not fair on you at all. He is not trying so why should you. Reading this honestly gave me a flashback on my life nearly 3 years ago. Move on, it will be hard but you will at least then be happy and you do deserve too.

    Good luck and wish you all the best xx

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  • joybird

    Sounds like he has his male buddies round him so he doesn't need you. Sure he will humour you for a while and say he will communicate etc but ... Chatter289 is right. Move on and start enjoying your life, stop wasting your time.

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  • ygrowup

    It is just so hard! Continue to make the best of it

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  • ggeineg

    Communication is very important in a relationship. If he doesn't make an effort than how can you have a healthy relationship? I think maybe you guys should take a break until he comes back for sure or something. You are Gunna go crazy in your situation :(

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  • jessem

    He's in the army doin important army stuff.

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