Is it normal that i am crazy about my best friend?

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I am a guy, I have been crazy about my best friend for just under a year now. To me she is absolutely amazing, I have tried to brush my feelings under the carpet but each day that goes by im finding that my feelings are getting stronger for her. We either speak or see each other nearly everyday. sometimes we will be on IM all day whilst we are at work just talking about everything and anything. Ive been told by other friends that she knows that I have a soft spot for her but I have never had that sort of conversation with her. I dont want to risk jeapordising our friendship and im quite scared that if i tell her i may lose her. I keep thinking to myself that if someone liked me and i didnt feel the same then i would back off a bit. I have two young children from a previous relationship and they love her too. A part of me thinks that the feeling is not mutual because there isnt a great deal of flirting from her even though i tell her shes beautiful everyday and pay her compliments all the time!!! But then whenever we arrange to go out its mainly just the two of us and we keep it secret from our other friends, or if we arrange to go out and there ends up being a group of us she seems slightly dis-heartened. Do i tell her, or do i just try and get over my feelings?

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  • CarlBrigsby
    12 years ago

    It seems like she may feel the same way about you. You should express your feelings to her and see what happens. I have a feeling she will feel the same. I had this happen with a really good friend on mine and after we broke up we became even closer as friends, and since we had both seen each other naked we were just very comfortable with each other. No sexual tension at all.

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  • sonny311206
    12 years ago

    still not told her, still speak to her day in day out, still go out just the two of us, still pay her compliments. she knows i like her but she hasnt heard it from me, i found out that our other friends have told her. so either shes a complete cow and is just taking advantage of the fact that i like her or she likes me too and she too is afraid to ruin a friendship!!! all i know is everyday that goes by my feelings for her get stronger!! so now do i continue to be her friend and just think 'if its meant to be it will happen' or do i just back off, distance myself and try and move on?!? #bb confused face

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  • BIGHAIRYMAN
    12 years ago

    I DID THIS N GOT REJECTED !

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  • 25starry25
    12 years ago

    Maybe at first just tell her that you like her. Not that you're crazy about her, then go gradually. Sometimes when a girl knows for sure that a guy likes her, they'll notice different qualities about the guy, and start to like them a lot as well!

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    12 years ago

    it sounds like she's feeling the same things you are - that she loves being with you and may be afraid to ruin the friendship by going for more.

    i'd say try going out with her alone to see how things turn.
    kiss her on the cheek and see how she reacts kind of thing

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  • karmasAbich
    12 years ago

    Awesome story. I would think you should tell her. At the same time, I understand why you are hesitant.
    Hope you figure out a solution that treats you both well.

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  • sonny311206
    12 years ago

    thanks for the advice, i no your right and that i should probably tell her im just so scared to. Im hoping that when the time is right i will know

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