Is it normal that i am being over possessive?

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Me and my bf have been together for 2 years until now. I am naturally a jealous person! No I mean OVER jealous and every day I try my best to avoid problems because of my jealousy and my possessive nature. But day after day I noticed that I am going crazy.
Every girl who pass near me I immediately think about my boyfriend and I imagine him in my place at tis moment and I imagine him looking at this girl and desiring her,
Even the video clips, when they shows naked girls or girls with big ass or twerking or whatever I get so upset that he might see this and feel something toward that, maybe desire or whatever and I cry!!
When he tell me he is watching a movie, i check the trailer and if there is a girl wearing tight clothes or have big boobs or big ass, i immediately think about what he's gonna think when he saw her, what he is going to feel etc..
He lately told me that he begin to watch game of thrones, If only you knew what I felt when i ve knew that, I imagined all the erotic scences in the tv show and imagine what could he feel when seing this.
When he go out for his own I cant stop thinking about all the girls that he could maybe across in the street, and what if one of them is wearing a short skirt or showing her boobs, and i imagine him looking at her boobs or whatever and imaging her in his bed.
You have no idea how much pain I feel every second I can't stop thinking about everything, my mind think about this things continually. I am crying everyday because of this things I caaaaan't live like that anymore! I am fed up I am fed up help me please. Am I being crazy or what ? is it an obsession ?

P.S sorry, I dont speak English well

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    Quite simply; continue acting like this and you will not have a boy friend to be jealous of. Little by little you are chasing him away. So you are creating the one thing you are most afraid of. He will leave you, if you cannot control your emotions, and it will not be another girl's fault. It will be yours and only yours.

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  • mountain-man82
    9 years ago

    Yes you are being way too obsessive and possessive. Learn to trust your boyfriend, or he may get tired of it and leave you.

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    • mountain-man82
      9 years ago

      Also you should seek a therapist asap.

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    • monaliza7000
      9 years ago

      Do you think that is it a lack of trust ? but what If i am right ??? is it normal that guys look to other girls? I have never noticed him doing that but the idea itself is killing meee

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      • [Old Memory]
        9 years ago

        All straight guys will look at other girls. It doesn't mean he's cheating on you. You obviously are not ready for this kind of relationship.

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        • monaliza7000
          9 years ago

          I think I am not ready for any relationship. I think it is better for me to leave him, because I hurt myself...

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      • mountain-man82
        9 years ago

        Guys look at girls and girls look at guys. It doesnt mean hes gonna do anything. Calm down and see a therapist before he leaves you or before you hurt yourself or him.

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        • monaliza7000
          9 years ago

          I need obviously see a therapit because that scared me. It is not about my boyfriend but me as a person, how can I live like that in the future with other guys? how can I marry someone and live happy. I obviously cant

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          • mountain-man82
            9 years ago

            Which is why you truly need to seek a therapist and get that worked out

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    You are being fucking ridiculous. I'm surprised your boyfriend is enough of a pussy to put up with your shit. Being jealous and insecure to this extent is unacceptable. Your relationship is meaningless if you cannot trust each other.

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    • RainbowDischarge
      9 years ago

      You really hate insecure people.

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      • [Old Memory]
        9 years ago

        I try to be tolerant of peoples problems, but I've had to deal with people like this a lot and have become beyond fed up with it.

        The issue I have with them is people who let their insecurities effect everyone around them by getting upset over everything and trying to control other people.

        I've known people who get so upset over the most petty bullshit when there are people suffering with real problems all over the world.

        It seems like some people are so over sensitive that they get upset over everything, no matter what others try to do to make them happy. It's just not worth trying to please people sometimes.

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        • monaliza7000
          9 years ago

          But I am not letting my insecurities effet him!! he know nothing abt what i am telling you here.. I want solutions pleasee not insults

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          • [Old Memory]
            9 years ago

            No, you don't effect me of course and I'm not trying to be mean. I try to give constructive criticism and insight that this kind of behavior will only drive people away.

            Sometimes I feel I must give a harsh yet realistic view on why certain behaviors would bother other people.

            I personally wouldn't want to deal with somebody who gets upset no matter what I do because I don't like trading my freedom just because it upsets somebody else for illogical reasoning.

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  • Leanne88
    9 years ago

    U need to chill if he hasn't done anything for u not to trust him then just get off his back otherwise your insecurities will drive him away for good besides all guys look at girls it doesn't mean he loves u any less and I'm sure u look at guys too it's just human nature and your lying if u say u don't

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    • monaliza7000
      9 years ago

      But I have never told him that i am suffering from this things. He has no idea what i am being through

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  • Blue_Velvet
    9 years ago

    If he has cheated with you before then i can understand your insecurity but if he has never cheated with you before, then i think you should calm down. Women will be apparent everywhere, you just need to accept it.

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    • monaliza7000
      9 years ago

      No he never cheated on me! he loves me so much..

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  • Avant-Garde
    9 years ago

    You need a therapy and do him a favour and dump him. How he stayed with you for this long is above me.

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  • KeepsakeDoll
    9 years ago

    See a therapist before you go full on yandere.

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  • dirtybirdy
    9 years ago

    You are undoubtedly bonkers. It took less than three sentences to come to that conclusion.

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  • Latinaasslover6969
    10 months ago

    I love my gf

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  • Latinaasslover6969
    10 months ago

    Aaaaaaaaaaassssssssssssssssssssss

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  • Latinaasslover6969
    10 months ago

    I love ass

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  • Latinaasslover6969
    10 months ago

    You should hate yourself and leave

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  • Mersaphe
    9 years ago

    It's normal to feel attracted to other people even when you are involved in a living and committed relationship. It's impossible to avoid these feelings, like I imagine it is for your boyfriend. But if he really loves you, he will not even think about sleeping with another girl. This is one of the biggest tests of someone's character and dedication to a relationship, whether they will stay loyal in the face of challenges.

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  • DaMan
    9 years ago

    ANNIE WILKESSSSSSSS IS THE OP. Im with everyone else on this one. Bitch, untie the man and let him goooo. My feet hurt loool

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    • monaliza7000
      9 years ago

      But he doesnt know that I have this problems, I have never talk to him abt it. I am just trying to find solutions, because this things are killing me

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