Is it normal that i am acting like this? should i change my behavior?

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My friend is depressed around two years now because of her break up and it seems that they wont get back together and yeah it's very complicated. She cries and goes crazy and calls me everyday and fills me with her problems and i feel like in a box you know and i have my own problems too. So few days ago she wrote me a text saying "I had just a few close people and you were one of them but you just dont care about me and never hold on to me. Even my neighbor calms and helps me. You're so selfish. " I didnt even know what to respond. Yes, i understand her pain because i've been trough a harsh break up as well but i cant handle her problems everyday. We have different point of views - I see everything very chilly and take with calm simple reactions because i think all is simple but she makes everything harder and she has negative thoughts soaked into brains. We're just different but she's my friend and i love her.
So what do you think guys? What should be changed? Am i selfish? Let me know what you think about this ! Thank you !

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  • Sweetgirl75
    11 years ago

    You're not selfish, but she is. She must know, as your friend, that also you've got problems and that you do care about her but don't always want to be bothered by hearing about her problems. You should tell her that if something's wrong, you'll be there for her but that she also has to think about the way you feel and that she cannot bother you with her problems every day. Maybe she also needs some distraction and new friends, that'll give you some more freedom and space and will also be good for her. (That does not mean you can't be friends anymore)
    I hope this helped you.
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  • plum6
    11 years ago

    this would annoy the hell out of me. this person obviously finds him or herself extremely important and does not realize that he or she is merely bothering others with his or her problems. Seems like a one-way street to me.

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  • Bitchfromheaven1111
    11 years ago

    Nothing should be changed. If your doing the best you
    Can to console her and she thinks your selfish
    For not caring. screw her cause ur trying.
    If she cannot accept this. Shes no were worthy
    Of your time

    Hope this helps !!!!

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  • Shackleford96
    11 years ago

    Demand that she takes those harsh untrue words back!

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  • andreth
    11 years ago

    I think you need to tell her how you feel about what she said and why. Tell her that you truly are trying to be there for her but you have your own life and feelings, and you can't fulfill all her expectations of a perfect friend. Ask her is there something specific she needs and isn't getting from you, because what she said just isn't fair.

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