Is it normal that i am a girl and in love with my female best friend?

Here's what I think you should do:

Tell her that you're bi. Even if you think you are a lesbian. Don't tell her you're in love with her yet. Put the idea in her head and let her think about it. If you all the sudden come out and tell you you're a lesbian and that you're in love with her, that immediately changes everything. That's a BIG announcement to make. So just tell her you're bi (because you really don't know yet, right? So it's not a lie.) and then go on as normal for a little while. Knowing that you are open to the idea, if she has any like feelings towards you, she's liable to admit it, and if it's ever crossed her mind, this will surely make her think seriously about it.

Tons of people are bi, so it's nothing to be embarrassed about, plus, you two are REALLY close so I'm sure she'd accept you for who you are regardless of her sexuality.

See where your relationship goes from there. If she never turns it into anything, it's highly likely that she regards you simply as a friend, and you won't have jeopardized your relationship. If she has any inclinations towards something more serious with you, this is a good way to get the ball rolling.

I'm in the same prob with my bestfriend I think although she has a serious bf and has actaully kissed me on the mouth and we tell eachother we love eachother and stuff to and will hold hands and sit n eachothers laps. But I wouldn't tell her ur bi or lesbein If I told her anything it would be that your attracted to her not girls if ur not attracted to all girls and just this one girl bc that's how I am so but best of luck were both screwed up :/ lol

I went through the exact same thing from the age of 11/12ish to 15 we would call each other when we woke up spend all day at school together call each other when we got home and spend every weekend at one of each others houses we even made up excuses to kiss like games where we would pretend to be different people it turned out we both had feelings for each other but never really knew how the other felt. We also said we loved each other every time we said goodbye or hung up. And we also said if the other died we would kill ourselves.
We have now been friends for 12 years she is getting married next month and me later on in the year lots of stuff has gone down in the last 12 years and although we aren't at all as close as we were we are still happy to call each other best friends. I think regardless of how what your going though turns out you can rest assured that what your going through is definitely normal frustrating and upsetting at times but still normal and also don't let anyone try and pigeonhole or label your sexuality because of it maybe you just fall inlove with who you fall inlove with and your best friend just happens to be one of those people.

Hi! Dont worry I actually like my best friend we have been friend for over 8 years and everytime I see her I always get nervous and I one time asked that if she would be mad at me if I liked her she said yea so I don't want to tell her

I dont think so its normal to kiss her on lips. It's wierd... It will definitely destroy your friendship in future!!!
Although your post is about 4 years old. But hope you read it.

I partly agree with KimmyKhaosXD. I think you should follow them steps, and if she DOES say she's attracted to girls, approach the subject jokily as to whether she's ever/does now like YOU. If she agrees jokily, smile and become more serious. Say: "Honestly?", and touch her shoulder. From there, you need to work your own way! =)

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I would say go for it " .

Dude who is the OP ?

I think you should kinda go halfway with what Jen and clay said maybe hug her and tell herur a bi say something that could be interpreted either way and kinda go from their if she rejects it then give her some time and try to respark ur friendship hopefully in tim every thing will work out

you could get screwd if you follow my advice

i think maybe she loves you to. but dont risk it.

I think Jen gave a good answer but I don't agree with it. I am more direct in everything I do and If I was you the next time you two kissed I would hold longer and go for a real kiss and see how she reacts to it and take it from there.

I don't think that's abnormal, a lot of people fall in love with their best friend.

You could be bisexual if you're capable of being attracted to men, even if the attraction isn't as strong as the one you're feeling towards your best friend.

You should start small and tell her that you're attracted to girls and that you may be bisexual or homosexual. By the sounds of your relationship, it won't cause any problems between you as friends - for all you know, she might reveal that she's also attracted to girls.

Before making any further moves after that (assuming that nothing grows from that), you need to determine her sexuality. If she doesn't want to go out with another girl, you won't be able to go any further with her. If she might be interested, then you might have a chance with her in a relationship.

Don't worry about a romantic relationship causing problems between you as friends, it should be okay as long as you let it grow slowly and naturally. You guys know each other incredibly well so the transition into a romantic relationship would be natural and has a high chance of working out. I started dating my best friend (of the opposite sex) and a year later it's working out really well.

im a guy i got notin ~understander

Ohkay, I am bisexual so this is an easy subject for me.(;
heres what you do.
Talk about someone bisexual you know or even a lesbian ask her if thats nasty. Then ask her what would she do if you said you were bisexi lol. then ask her have you ever felt anything for a girl. wait a while and if she is ohkay with lesbians and bisexuals or says she is attracted to girls GO FOR IT! XD have fun sweetheart.

I think that the risk of letting her know how you feel is very small. Admitting something like this to her will not break up a friendship this close...there is a decent chance that she loves you in return, and things could work out perfectly. Even if they don't, it sounds like you will still have her as a best friend, as long as you reassure her that you are fine, and work as hard as you can to get over it and move on.

Just be prepared to move on if it doesn't work out. Don't pine after something that can't be, or it will wreck both of you.

You trust her, and she trusts you. You're lucky. This won't be easy, but it won't be impossible.

I think you need to get real about who you are, and not act it out on a best friend.

You are lesbian & that is fine. But you are playing with your best friends feelings and hoping she is the same when she is not.

Don't be a fool. Get some help with coming out. Leave your besty as your besty, not a lover. You will need her.

But until you have squared yourself with your sexual orientation leave her out of it, until you have it semi-together.

You are so lucky to have the love of a friend. But do take responsibility for yourself. Then let her in on it. She will support you as a friend.