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I always had identity crisis issues (homosexuality specificly). I am a germaphobe so the fear of getting a STD was common. I also had paranoia and OCD, concerning embarassing subjects, so all of these issues together made me feel like a mental case and I was worried that I couldn't have a normal relationship.
I would have said it's not normal but your circumstance makes it understandable. It sounds like you've been through a lot so don't be so hard on yourself!
It's not common for a 26 year old to be a virgin, sexual immaturity will single you out from other adults to a degree. I can tell an adult virgin in a social setting. Once you have sex, your body and mind change. It is part of growing up, and also VERY healthy.
The only people who think it's normal are other virgins, and you can't use their advice because they don't know any better than you.
Duh.
For some reason I am getting the impression, giving the tone of some of the comments, that everyone thinks I'm female. For the record, I am a guy/male.
'Once you have sex your body and mind will change' Haha what the fuck? Your world doesn't change just because you've had a dick inside you/put your dick in someone.
I am 26 and I have never done anything with a guy. I am not waiting for the right guy, but I am just waiting until I feel comfortable with myself. Tina Fey was 30 when she lost it. You are not alone.
I think you need to see a psychiatrist. I don't mean that in a bad way. If they can get you balanced on the right meds, OCD wont be as much of a problem, and you can pursue sex.
Relax and focus on improving yourself. Sex will come in a healthy relationship with the right person.
You know, you can convince yourself that you have all these things wrong with you or you can decide to just get on with your life and let all those letter maladies evaporate.
Really, there is no medicine or doctor out there nearly as important to your future as your own will to have a decent life.
Stop looking for excuses why you can't do things and just jump in holding your nose and breath, making sure it's deep enough you won't hit the bottom.
Life is a wonderful gift and wasting it thinking (or being told) that there is something wrong with you is the real crime. We ALL have our unique problems and only you think yours are the worst. Trust me they aren't!
Yes, I do. The problem is that I feel emotionally stunted about everything and I don't know what to do. Add OCD to top it off.
Uh I don't know much about all this but I'm pretty sure that you will find a person and you will realise you can do it, despite the fear of getting a disease or being concerned about too many things. You're not that old, after all, and you're not the only person that has problems :p
Like before having sex; I had had guys asking me out but I didnt say yes to any date because i was too scared. I ended up thinking I just couldn't do it. I would never be ready. Able to actually say yes. And have sex and fun like other people did. Until the right one came, I guess.