Is it normal that i am 17 and never had a boyfriend?

Alright, I am 17, pretty, smart, not fat, and have a good personality but I never had a boyfriend? I know I may be rushing things but I am tired of being alone and when I see a couple together, it makes me sad. I don't want to be alone anymore. But I also don't want to be desperate. And my friends are trying to tell me to change who I am for a guy. I don't want to do that. I want to be myself. But how come no guy I like likes me? I just don't know.

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  • normalmonkey

    Yep it's normal, I'm 19 right now and only just getting my first boyfriend :)
    A lot of girls are under the impression that having a boyfriend is something that just happens, but of course it isn't! If there's no one around that you 'click' with in that way then that's just the way things happen to be - maybe you need to go out and find that right someone, rather than waiting for them to come along :)
    And also remember, you shouldn't want a boyfriend just because you like the idea of it or your friends have had them and you haven't, you should want a boyfriend because you have found someone you want to go to that next level with. Don't want a boyfriend then look for the boy, find the boy THEN want a boyfriend! lol :)

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    • Hammerofpower

      Thanks yoda

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  • alv1592

    totally normal. i'm 19 and haven't had a serious bf. just be patient, good things come to those who wait. :)

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  • DCM11885

    Hey, I'm a 26 year old guy and never had a girlfriend... if that makes you feel any better.

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  • Don't do it, wait it out. You know how Lady GaGa was a total outcast? Now, she's got tons of guys wanting her, so if you ain't found him ywt, you will.

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  • lesbianfiasco

    For the love of fuck, do not listen to your friends. They are clearly morons. As trite as it sounds, don't change yourself for someone. It always ends badly. Trust me.

    As for the boyfriend deal, one will turn up. I have only been in a serious relationship with a total of four people in my 22 years of living (I had my first girlfriend at 16 and my first boyfriend at 18), and each one of those relationships were pretty happy functional ones and all ended on good terms. My friends, on the other hand, have gone through completely shit relationship, due to their incessant need to be with anyone who is interested in them. Just wait it out. You'll meet a cute, pleasant guy some day that's totally interested in you, and you'll probably break up. But you know what? You'll most likely find another.

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    • pixie_dust

      well yes, for the love of fucking... I love to fuck too, but that id putting the cart before the horse bcuz u should already have the relationship thing figured out before you realize how much u love to fuck

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  • Of course it's normal =) I'm 19 and never had a boyfriend (not including the one internet relationship I once had). Then again, there's a LOT of very good reason for that in my case...
    I don't care though, I don't especially want one again. I (somehow) know a lot about relationships and the bad seems to outweigh the good. I'm happier being independent.
    I don't wanna put you off or anything, it's just my own opinion on it... XD
    One thing's for sure, never change who you are for anybody :) x

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  • GoodDay21

    it's normal.. I'm also 17 and I just recently got my first boyfriend three months from my 17 th birthday. I am also thin. so I thinking is normal. :) it'll all be okay dear I promise. I personly think waiting that long is better, because than you haven't been hurt, and you might find someone who has and make thief life amazing as well as yours all while having that amazing guy. :) good luck. :)

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  • Zone

    I am 24, and I still haven't had a girlfriend. I know there is nothing wrong with my looks or the way I act. I'm really social and do have sex sometimes, but I just never manage to get a gf.

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  • Pisslan616

    I'm 18 never had a girlfriend.

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  • CrystalMoonlight

    Most guys are jerks. It's hard to find someone decent these days. Don't worry, you sound like a nice girl, I'm sure you'll find your prince soon.

    I know some people who have a different boyfriend every day of the week, but they're stuck-up brats who think they can have whoever they want.

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  • Equals_BioNet

    "17 you're ready" -Chef, South Park

    In all seriousness though, yes of course it's normal.

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  • CreativeThinker

    be my girlfriend

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  • F34RTH3HUNT3R

    Same here ony i'm a guy

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  • TotalAspie

    That's a good description you gave of yourself, but it is it possible you're love-shy?

    This is my first day, so I dunno if I can do links, but hopefully this will help if it shows up:

    http://www.love-shy.com/faq#women

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  • im my girlfriends first boyfriend and shes 18 so your normal.

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  • solisk1

    thats awesome!! im 17 and jst got with a wonderful guy. im glad i waited. you will see.. good guy will love youu

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  • Ark

    its normal I first started dating around 20. also NEVER change who you are just to be with someone if they are so shallow that they can't accept someone as they are they don't deserve to have you

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  • SweetSherry

    I think its somewhat normal I know a guy who didn't have a girlfriend until he was 19 because of horrible acne all over his face he simply said no girl wanted me with bumps and pimples all over my face he's in his 30s now has two children and is in a committed relationship now for 8yrs he still has horrible acne scars but his current gf and the mother of his children has accepted him for who he is and what he looks like so if you're not what society deems pretty or date able don't get too depressed about it your perfect man is out their waiting for you

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  • gogo45

    17 is very young, you haven't even begun to enjoy life until your 25.

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  • Knightbridge

    That's fine. no worries. some teens just start their relationships like 12 or 13, but actually they don't really know what they are doing. when u get more mature, u'll understand what kinds of people u r looking for. or what kinds of people r suitable for you.. don't worry.. u'll find your right man..:D

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  • nique_cali

    arent you suppose to be 18 for this? lol

    anyways yes it is, dont rush things your young have fun!

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  • kjWA

    normal! I was 18 when I got my first bf, wait it out! he will come and it'll be worth it! never ever change for a guy, someone out there is going to love you just the way you are!

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  • suffocate09

    yeah its normal go things come to those who wait :) all I can say is start giving off this energy that you want someone special in your life fix your hair more, dress a lil nicer have positive attitude.Most guys tend to want happy positive things around them and it all depends where your looking for. Be open and aware. Also dont change fro any guy, be yourself because if you change the guy that wanted to find a girl like you, you would miss him cause you CHANGED :) have a good one

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  • TheIntellect

    Don't worry about it, as a guy I have a lot of respect for independent girls like you. Just wait. Only change your appearance i.e. clothes and style upgrade if need be. Nothing wrong with dressing yourself up nice.

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  • Proud_of_my_ancestry

    How many times has this been asked?? hehe, anyway.. yes.. yes and yes! It is normal. Remember quality not quantity don't rush into things.

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  • sleep around?

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  • Computermonkey

    Hey cumon itz a betr lyf witout a byf,
    if u lv sum1 it creates sumtin within him and he feels akward whn he c u talkin wit othr guys and all...
    Do u want ths to happn ha
    bla bla bla no freedom

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    • lesbianfiasco

      What on earth are you saying, woman?

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  • pain123

    Wow this is like the millionth time I've see this story it's soo stupid! Yeah it's normal stop trying to get attention

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  • BritLuvesU

    hun let me put it this way.Face it your not atractive .An it takes time for a good guy.Lik i started talkin to my guy at 12 here i am 17 still got him.

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