Is it normal that i am 22 and i haven't had sex yet?

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I think that it is cause I am not very approachable to people. I don't like interfere with many people. I think that I don't have sexy characteristics, but I have some possible mate-attractive ones. Although, I am 22, I haven't been in a relationship yet, cause I haven't met the suitable person and I haven't had sex yet-cause I don't want to have an one-night stand. So what do you think?

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  • linchpin
    10 years ago

    make like an egg and get laid!!!!!!!

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    • Anemistir
      10 years ago

      Like an egg? What do you mean?

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  • LoneLangolier
    10 years ago

    I'm almost 24 and still a virgin... Sometimes I feel like I'm counting down the time because being an attractive woman only lasts so long...I am waiting for love.. I am shy and aloof as well... People like us only attract certain people. When you visualise what you want in your mind out of a romance the type of person often appears in your life... Even if you're shy.. At least that's what I think

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    • [Old Memory]
      10 years ago

      "I'm almost 24 and still a virgin... Sometimes I feel like I'm counting down the time because being an attractive woman only lasts so long"

      You're right about that but there's nothing wrong with being an attractive woman that's a virgin.

      In fact I find you very attractive for waiting so long. I bet you're a very moral and good person :)

      While I respect you and your decision I don't necessarily agree with it because you're 'wasting' years of your life not dating/fucking people and you're missing out on those experiences. Meaning you're missing out on a huge portion of enjoyment/experience of being human and you're not developing to proper social skills that you may need to really attract guy and get him to fall in love with you.

      If I met you I'd be impressed with your choice but I'd also be a little concerned that if we got married you'd want to experience other guys because you never did so be aware of that. In a way girls that have dated other guys but chose one guy to marry make that guy special.

      Confusing isn't it? LOL.

      There's probably not a single thing in this world that you'd only want to try one type of:

      Pizza? Hmm nope.
      Cars to drive, nope.
      Shoes to wear? Nope.
      ICE CREAM! NOPE.
      Friends? Nope.
      One colored clothes? NOPE.

      Ok so why would a girl only want to fuck one guy for her entire life?
      NOPE.

      You didn't say you wanted to marry the guy that pops your cherry but I'm just making an assumption inline with your thinking.

      I can tell you that all the girls I've fucked/dated in the past don't really mean anything to me today but because of those experiences I'm a better lover, a better mate and possibly a better overall person. When I have a gf I want to be a better person and achieve more and I enjoy doing things that make her happy. I'm generally happier with life. Part of that is having someone to call my own and sharing life with and part of it is the regular great sex we have.

      Often times you learn about yourself and test yourself when dating someone. You also learn about them and what's good and not good to do in a relationship. You learn how to seduce (in my case girls in your case guys) which is very important in a relationship.

      Also sex is a very powerful emotion of pleasure. So it's much more likely that a guy would fall in love with you and become the guy you'd fall in love with if you're fucking him. If you're not pleasuring him why should he be charming or go out of his way to treat you so specially when you won't even do what all the other girls will do for him? If he's pleasuring you then you too will be more likely to fall in love with him also.

      I'm not saying a guy will never fall in love with you because you're not fucking him or pleasuring him but I'm saying your odds are much less :(
      You could be the prettiest girl on the planet but if you're not 'allowing' or 'accepting' a guy to fuck you and pleasure you and himself with you then he'll likely not stick around long, why would he? Other girls give him more pleasure and EVERYBODY loves sex.

      When you date a guy and you tell him you're a virgin and you won't have sex with him (he's not going to be the one popping your cherry ) it's like a personal insult and attack against him. You're telling him he's not good enough for you so basically you're just using him and wasting his time.

      Do you really want to marry the first guy that you have sex with?
      I'd say that's not healthy. Once you start having sex you're probably going to want to do it more and with different guys to see how it's different with them. That's normal. If you only have sex with one guy and then marry him you may regret it and cheat on him or sabotage your own marriage to get out just so you can live more of life and fuck other guys.

      "...I am waiting for love.. I am shy and aloof as well... "

      More great qualities to have for a female.
      Honestly I wish I knew girls like you because I'm used to sluts or girls that are easy to have sex with and it's very disappointing.

      So you're waiting for love but you're shy and aloof which means no guy really has a chance to fall in love with you because you're not really available. Maybe you're scared to get your heart broken or you weren't raised 'properly' to be conducive socially?

      If you want to meet a great guy start allowing yourself to meet him. Give him a chance. Start having fun and smiling at guys, flirt with them.

      "People like us only attract certain people."

      Here's where I disagree with you.
      If you're an attractive female and you're making yourself available to meet guys you'd have plenty of guys all over you even if you're a virgin. Many guys will want to be the one to pop your cherry so they'll try hard to date you. It's like a bonus to a guy to be the first and only guy that gets that prize.

      "When you visualise what you want in your mind out of a romance the type of person often appears in your life... "

      That often is true.

      "Even if you're shy.."

      Why are you shy?
      You're a female. All the pressure is on males not you.

      If you don't want to end up alone you'd better get busy improving yourself.

      There's a shockingly high number of lonely single females in the world. I realized this when looking online for different girls. I was shocked at how many are alone and don't have a great guy.

      If you don't believe me try searching for girls in a major city on a dating site like Plenty of fish or <a href="http://Match.com" rel="nofollow">Match.com</a>, etc.

      You're competing with all those girls and more in real life to find a great guy.

      GET BUSY :)

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  • suky
    10 years ago

    I think you come across as unavailable, not interested. That puts blokes off. I'm told "you've got it written all over you" so I get blokes wanting to fuck me all the time. If you want a permanent man, he'll come; if you want to try a few live-ins to learn about men and what you want, there's plenty of fish in the sea. If you just want to fuck (sounds as if you don't), don't worry about your looks. They can always close their eyes.

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    • Anemistir
      10 years ago

      But I would like to seem available and interested, I am just really anti-social and awkward. I want like something closer to a realationship.

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  • linchpin
    10 years ago

    Oh yeah man come on you'll live a full life 22 years is nothing u got so much time left to get laid it will happen the right one will come

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  • Nonos
    10 years ago

    Im a 27 year old female and i was Virgin till 4 months ago. I think depends on the circumstances being virgin at any age could be normal. I had this mentality that i should give up to "mr right" and thats why i waited so long. Although i ended up having sex with a guy I'm seeing casually since i was so frustrated and couldn't wait any longer. I think if you REALLY want it you will do something about it

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    Are you some kind of freak?

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    • April=)
      10 years ago

      no, no she is not. Have you got a FUCKING PROBLEM?! she is not a freak. YOUR a freak, live with it >=｜

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    • those3simplewords
      10 years ago

      That's not nice to say at all.

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    • Anemistir
      10 years ago

      Possibru.

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  • RainbowDischarge
    10 years ago

    Ima have to go with normal. I seriously thought I was going to be a virgin forever then I met my boyfriend and he did me good shortly after my 18th birthday. He thought I lied bout being a virgin cause I didnt bleed, then this year I showed him my 2009 diary entry I wrote about that night he took my v card, lmao.

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  • April=)
    10 years ago

    i agree. well not really i just wanna chat with someone =)

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    • [Old Memory]
      10 years ago

      Hi April.

      I often see your comments on here and I'm wondering how old you are and what part of the world you live in?

      If you'd like to chat with me, we can chat about anything.

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      • April=)
        10 years ago

        hiya!
        i am 18!! and sooo imature!!

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    I'd say it's generally not normal and not good.

    You don't want to marry the first girl that you have sex with because you've got a lot to learn about relationships and sex.

    The more experience you have with girls the better you'll probably do choosing a good one.

    Women also don't generally respect guys that are virgins because you have no clue what you're in bed and can't satisfy them.

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    • patriot071592
      10 years ago

      "Women also don't generally respect guys that are virgins because you have no clue what you're in bed and can't satisfy them."

      Not true! Some girls yes, most no. Most girls respect male virgins in their twenties. Those who wouldn't have sex with virgin guys are sluts, and most girls are not sluts.

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      • [Old Memory]
        10 years ago

        "Not true! Some girls yes, most no. Most girls respect male virgins in their twenties. Those who wouldn't have sex with virgin guys are sluts, and most girls are not sluts."

        That's an interesting take on it and I've never heard or seen that.
        Girls want to get fucked well and virgin males aren't that good at it.

        Maybe it's a social specific thing.

        What part of the world do you live and and are you American or another nationality?

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        • patriot071592
          10 years ago

          You sound anti-virgin to me. And that's NOT normal.

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          • [Old Memory]
            10 years ago

            "You sound anti-virgin to me. And that's NOT normal."

            Anti-Virgin?

            LOL, never even heard of a thing.

            I love female virgins and I don't think about guys at all nor do I care about them or their sexual experience because I'm not gay.

            If you or others think females like male virgins then great but I've never met a girl that did and I've dated a lot of young girls in my life when I was young myself.

            Males are expected to be the leaders and ones with experience taking care of the female. Males who are virgins generally lack confidence and skill to satisfy a female.

            Next you'll probably try to tell everyone that females love males that lack confidence and don't know how to approach and flirt with a girl.

            But whatevers, to each their own.

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            • emerillog
              10 years ago

              as a girl who has had experience with sex I would just like to say that I don't have anything against male virgins. it's true that they are much less able to satisfy than a guy who has had experience but I think it's a bit cute when they don't know what they're doing at first tbh

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            • patriot071592
              10 years ago

              "Next you'll probably try to tell everyone that females love males that lack confidence and don't know how to approach and flirt with a girl."

              Just because a male is a virgin doesn't necessarily mean he lacks confidence and doesn't know how to talk to girls. I don't know how old you are but I assume you're probably about twice my age and I can tell you for sure that most girls respect 22-year-old male virgins. I conducted an online survey on this topic. Not surprisingly, most guys said male virgins in their 20s are either gay or socially inept. Girls, on the other hand, were much more respectful. So you actually dated girls who said they don't like male virgins? It's one thing for a girl to respect a male virgin but not want to have sex with them, but for a girl to come close to hating them (if they've ever said that) sounds very slutty to me.

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    • [Old Memory]
      10 years ago

      I wanted to add virgin girls often don't have that stigma.

      Many guys WANT a virgin girl because they don't want a slut or to know that she's been with other guys.

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      • Anemistir
        10 years ago

        This is fucking sexism. I am a girl though. I wouldn't like more or want a guy with a 100 of partners, cause I would be disgusted. It's unhealthy and dangerous. I would prefer a virgin or someone without experience, who will become experienced with me.

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        • [Old Memory]
          10 years ago

          "This is fucking sexism. I am a girl though. I wouldn't like more or want a guy with a 100 of partners, cause I would be disgusted."

          Great. Cry me a river?

          LOL, whatever it is I'm just telling you the way it is.

          It's much more acceptable for guys to be sluts than girls because :

          1. It's how we are biologically programmed and it's our responsibility to procreate the species. Forget humans, look at nature. It's the males fucking all the females spreading their seed. It's biological. We're loaded with testosterone. Females aren't.

          2. You females almost never have a problem with it which means you females accept it. That means guys can get away with it. In fact most girls find it desirable to be with a guy that's a 'stud' and can / does fuck a lot of females.
          Most females see that as a sign of a worthy mate.
          Most females don't want a male that can't get a female because they seem him as undesirable and not a good mate.

          Ask most guys that walk into a bar alone.
          Most of the time hardly any girls want to fuck him.

          Same guy walks into a bar with one or two girls he knows and suddenly sluts come running.

          3. Get over it. Males and females are not equal nor does society treat them equally. You females have life SO easy compared to males it's a joke.
          Most of you are spoiled and only have to spread your legs and open your mouths to get almost everything you want.

          Males have to work our asses off to get anything.

          Just the way it is.

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals
    10 years ago

    Not normal. This is 2013.

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    • April=)
      10 years ago

      not normal, you say? why?

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  • gorgeous
    10 years ago

    Wait for your turn dear..dont be hurry...its nice to be virgin at age of that..

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  • peterr
    10 years ago

    Let someone do you. Try anal, shippin or receiving. Have fun, suck a cock or three. Swallow. Eat cunt. Its all there but like or respect your partner above all. And to thine own self be true!!!

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  • PenguinBoy
    10 years ago

    I'm 24 and haven't been laid yet, for a multitude of reasons. My problem is not quite the same as yours, as many girls have been attracted to me, and some have approached me and tried to start relationships with me. There was always some problem, mainly because I wasn't able to properly reciprocate their advances, and also because a lot of them were under 16, and I don't feel like wearing an ankle bracelet for the rest of my life.

    I suggest you learn to act more confident. It makes a big difference. I don't mean you should be cocky and arrogant; that's a major turnoff; just train yourself to give off a vibe of security. In my experience, girls are way more likely to notice me if I feel good about myself, because it affects the way I walk, the posture I stand in, the inflection in my voice, my facial expressions, etc. I've gotten way more female attention by just adjusting the subtleties in my body language than I have by being good-looking or having a good personality.

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    • CRuNKShaNK
      10 years ago

      I suppose it's to be expected by someone named PenguinBoy

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    • CRuNKShaNK
      10 years ago

      You should probably being the guy posting this IIN then lol.

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    • Anemistir
      10 years ago

      You just describe the way to get girls and I am a girl who likes boys, as far as I am concerned.

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