Is it normal that i always want people to want to like me?

So I was talking with a friend a few weeks ago and she came to the conclusion that I don't want to be friends with everybody, I want everybody to be friends with me. I agree with this conclusion because I have this need to make connections with people, but at the same time, I feel like I want them to like me and I like the fact that people, certain people with certain statuses, want to be my friend or enjoy hanging out with me. I used to think I was a loner, but I feel like loners choose to be alone, and I did not choose, I felt that I had to be based on the differences between myself and others.

An example of this is when our other friend will call my friend and ask her if she wants to do something with her, but she won't ask me. I shouldn't expect that friend to always ask me because I am not always attentive to her. I am attentive when I feel I have to be, or when I feel like listening to her talk about something, but I almost feel like in order to feel a part of the group, I force myself to be attentive instead actually being interested most of the time. But then I have the nerve to get upset when she doesn't ask me to do something with the two of them.

It's a very selfish way of thinking and approaching the situation, but for some reason I feel this need to be a part of a group or feel like I am in a circle of friends. But that doesn't necessarily mean that I find the people I am with all that interesting. I almost idealize them because they are the people that I wish I was like, the ones who party endlessly, drink, have sex, and are generally the typical college girl, but I am totally not typical at all. I am actually weird, awkward, and I have anxiety issues.