Is it normal that i always think my boyfriend is lying?

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To make this story short, I have three children from the same father, but we are no longer together. I met this great man who met all the qualities I always wanted my kid's father to have. We get along great, he's romantic, helps me out alot. He accepted me with my kids and all my problems. It seems like I have it all with him. His problem is that he's illegal and in order to fix his legal status he needs to marry a woman that is a U.S citizen and has a steady job, and that's me. We never spoke about going through the process , but I really like this man so I offer to help him.
My problem is that I always feel his lying to me about his feelings for me. Whenever he says I love you, I feel he's lying. When I ask him do you love me , he talks in that soft voice to tell me yes. I feel so insecure about this relationship becasue I have a feeling he is using me to get his green card. I find my self to be an attractive woman, but is the kids part that has me confused. How does a good looking man would want to be with a woman with 3 kids?
Like I said before he is really nice to me and the kids, he is very interested in their education and is always trying to please me in everything. I'm just scared that he might be using me to get his green card and them leave me once I can't take anything I've done back. How can I tell if he really loves me?

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  • Nokiot9
    9 years ago

    Hahaha. So did u know about his status when u got involved with him? What a sneaky lil bastard.

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  • sheat
    11 years ago

    his lying to you he wants his papers and maybe he has a family and the only reason his with you is because he want the green card you have to find about this guy ask him questions and test him and maybe you'll find something..... and be careful with your kids don't trust a stranger because it may be easy for him to do stuff because here in USA his nothing

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  • disthing
    12 years ago

    "To make this story short"... Sarcasm? I'm part of the short-attention-span generation...

    But to answer the question, it's normal to be careful. But it's not normal to marry someone you think may not actually want to be with you. It's too much of a risk to you and your kids. Until you trust him and believe he loves you, I recommend not marrying him.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    You haven't said how long you've been dating him. Make sure you date for at least 3 years before you contemplate marriage. He won't be able to keep up the pretense for that length of time.

    I agree with the others, if you doubt him then your instincts are probably correct.

    OMG just had a thought - maybe he's a paedo. Don't leave him alone with your kids.

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  • spiffy
    13 years ago

    Always trust your gut feeling

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  • bunnie
    13 years ago

    Trust ur feelings ... If he was honest u wouldn't feel he's lying ...
    Feelings cannot be hidden or faked .. If he loves u would feel it .. If he's faking you would know it ... In short 95% he's lying

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  • DoTheTaster
    13 years ago

    If he's from Mexico, he's probably already cheating on you; if he's not, he will be soon.

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  • BoredGuy
    13 years ago

    no more sex? I would dump her just for that lol

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  • jon87
    13 years ago

    Ok here is what you do. Tell him no more sex and also you can't marry him for a long time and then see if he still hangs around.

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  • blondie28
    13 years ago

    Agree with last post!!! Don't marry him!!!!!! It's not ur place to make him legal, that's his problem!!!! Relationships are always great in the beginning but men are all the same!! Just worry about u and your kids!!! Not some illegal alien!!!!!!

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  • lewlew80
    13 years ago

    Don't marry that alien!

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  • whodat
    13 years ago

    I would trust your instincts......I know a couple girls who went through that crap.

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  • gako
    13 years ago

    Ya it's time to say buh-bye

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  • stayzz0
    13 years ago

    If it sounds too good to be true, it is too good to be true. Becareful.

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  • aussiewolf
    13 years ago

    i cant help but agree with regane. if he truly wants to be with you then tell him to apply for citizenship without getting married. if he gets upset or tries to make you feel guilty then that would most probably mean that he is just using you.

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  • regane
    13 years ago

    I think he may be lying...... I use that same voice when I lie:

    - ooooh yay spaghetti for dinner (soft voice)
    - no, I love your friends (very soft voice)
    - do you know where I put my underwear (very very soft voice....no)
    - does this make me look fat? (nothing comes out)

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