Is it normal that i always get turned down?

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I am a 19yrs old African American girl, I have never had a boyfriend and never been kissed and im starting to feel like im doing something wrong. Every time I like a guy I get rejected, when I'm at parties my friends will be of talking to boys off somewhere and I would be by myself. I'm not saying I'm scared, I would like a boy to come up and talk to me but it never happens. Also, I love my friends and I'm not conceited but I look better than some of my friends and they are even with boys! Thats what makes me insecure....Is this normal? or am I the only one going through this because I feel like I am....and also leave comments to what should I do to help this problem(:

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    "I'm not conceited"

    People who are not conceited don't say i'm not conceited.

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    • Magnazar
      4 years ago

      Really?
      That's your response?
      I just found someone else who isn't popular at parties.
      It's okay to not comment. Sometimes no response is the best response.

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  • Magnazar
    4 years ago

    Then why do all black women have multiple children? Dudes will bone anything and everything. Being Black isn't the issue.
    Maybe she has bad breath. Or her dad is the local sherrif.
    Or maybe she is too hot and seems unapproachable.

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  • Paradiddle
    11 years ago

    Fellow African American, as a direct answer to the this story's question, I'd say its very normal. As for being sad about it, that is also very normal. Most people feel the desire to find someone and sooner rather than later. However, how many of your female friends have real keepers? What if they are just dating for the sake of wanting a guy? This may not be the case but I'm just throwing that out there. What good is it to constantly date and look back thinking "Man, none of those guys were anything special.."

    I'm sure the times you were interested in a certain guy was legit, OP. Its great that you actually asked them yourself. Just know that whoever hasn't accepted is missing out and its okay when someone isn't interested. Whenever someone is interested, I'm sure they'll be glad they chose you. Everyone who has a mate doesn't have good ones either so its alright that someone hasn't come to you yet. Enjoy yourself and keep your chin up and in no time, someone will come knocking.

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  • willyma
    11 years ago

    if you want something. Go out and get it

    be the chaser. switch up the game

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  • FIREDUP!
    11 years ago

    You just have to believe in yourself and the next guy that turns you down dont think negatively about it, but rather he is missing out on so much that you could offer him, for prime example a nice, healthy relationship!

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  • Holzman67
    11 years ago

    With self confidence you will achieve this. It's getting the balance right. Feeling happy with yourself without being arrogant. Think of all your values, use these to fuel your self belief. It is confidence which is the most attractive quality. Your insecurity and low esteem brought upon by this loneliness is dragging you down. Do your best to put it behind you when you move forward. I'm sure you have much to offer someone. And don't be afraid to make a first move either, I think too often women wait for guys to do it.

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    • FIREDUP!
      11 years ago

      exactly, women who wait for men to do it sometimes get what they want but the thing is not every guy can be so brave as to walk up and ask a girl he likes out so that could be a reason. Im sure you have at least 5-6 people that like you, at least so dont feel down it just might be that you are just so beautiful and they are afraid of asking because they do not want to get rejected!!

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    You don't get guys because you are black.

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