Is it normal that i always get put in the friend zone?

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At first I could see why I kept being in the friend zone and that was because I was too nice and shy. Then after that I become a lot more confident but I still get put in the friend zone. They just say I'm either really cool and funny but they either like someone else, say they are taken, or just not their type.

I'm not actually shy anymore and just act myself but I can't seem to get any girl at all and I don't know why i keep ending up like that. People say I'm good looking sometimes but that's never enough.

So now I'm wondering maybe I have to be the opposite and be a jerk because even me being confident isn't working so Is it normal for a guy like me to feel like he doesn't want to do this anymore and be a jerk?

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  • equanimity
    12 years ago

    Don't become a jerk.

    Keep trying. Make your intentions clear early on; that you aren't sticking around so that you can become "friends" later on; that you desire something more from them than platonic companionship. And try to do this without being vulgar or aggressive--or insecure.

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  • ccjigsaw
    12 years ago

    "Thank god for unanswered prayers" Maybe you didn't end up dating any of them because it would have ended up in disaster? Hypothetically speaking. But the right person comes along when your not looking. Be patient :)

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    12 years ago

    btw im 21 years old

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  • shuggy-chan
    12 years ago

    Shackleford?

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Whatever you do dont become a jerk, I know it seems like those type of guys do get girls its just stupid to be like that and its impossible to "act" like a jerk anyway, you either are one or you arent.

    Keep being friendly and confident, it will happen when it happens.

    Not to be insulting, but you sure you arent really ugly? Most times when women say "I like you as friend" they are really saying "I am not attracted to you at all.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago

      ive been told im ugly one time and they were teasing. the other times girls, AND guys, say im cute. most of the time i get told i look younger thn i actually am or get mistaken for a girl online. idk its confusing

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      • [Old Memory]
        12 years ago

        While not being ugly, getting confused for a girl is not something you would to have happen either. As well as being told you look younger. If you were 50 and you were told you look much younger thats great, but its not something you want to hear at the ages of 15-25, (ironic isnt it?)

        Well like I said about the friend translation, that is pretty accurate across the board, when a girl says that its basically them saying I am not attracted physically to you at all.

        Give it time, perhaps your looks will mature and you will find yourself out of the friend zone and in the "fun" zone if you know what mean.

        Hubba Hubba

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