Is it normal that i, a girl, really really like a gay guy?

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So I have this guy friend that I've known for a little over a year now. We met doing a local theatre show together. When I met him last year, he wasn't gay. He had a girlfriend whom he had been dating for years; she broke up with him and totally broke his heart. That's when he deicded to become bi. He didn't want to get into another bad ending relationship. He had said that he was really confused. He told me all of this over skype. Soon after, he became gay. Everyone says we would make a great couple, but he is actually with a guy now. Somehow, I still "like-like" him a LOT and I'm SO confused. And sometimes it seems like he flirts with me. I've liked him for a year now. I had told him last year, which was when he told me he was gay. I really don't know what to do. I think he's just really confused??? Please help!!!

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  • petawawacouple69
    12 years ago

    He's bi, not gay, he said he was gay after you confessed you liked him because it was an easy way to reject you. If he liked you he'd wanna be with you

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  • Hmmaybe
    12 years ago

    He is bi. You can move around on the scale of more homosexual and more heterosexual but you never become completely one and not the other. He may have feelings for you. I would advise waiting until he breaks up with his boyfriend and then ask him out.

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  • DADNSCAL
    11 years ago

    Yeah, you can like him as a friend, but give up on a relationship.

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  • 8==D
    12 years ago

    I pity the straight guys who like you.

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  • Coco327
    12 years ago

    It's normal to fall for a gay guy but it wouldn't be normal to wait around for a gay man to have the same feelings for you. If he did he would have told you and not said he was gay. Seems like he was letting you down easy. Move on.

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  • phenylalanine
    12 years ago

    I knew a girl who dated a gay guy. He had many problems with friends and family and their homophobia so he was hiding his sexuality from many people. They both just kind of wanted him to be straight so badly that they convinced themselves it could work. He started cheating with men. He was afraid she would harm herself if he left her so he stayed with her. I think they might have lasted a year or two like that. But it was completely miserable for both parties

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  • FocoUS
    12 years ago

    You don't become gay. You realize that you're gay. And I don't think it's something he'd lie about. Don't chase after a gay guy. It doesn't go anywhere and it's bad for you.

    Flirts with you? Hun, my gay friends and girls get along well and joke about this. "You're looking fabulous today!" "hey there good looking!" "Let's go on a date after school!" My gay buddy has said all of these things to me. He's still gay.

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  • randomjelly
    12 years ago

    If he is young there is a possibility that yes he is entirely gay. Myself, like many others, transition. We aren't sure what we are feeling or what is "wrong" with us. We date and have relationships with the opposite sex. We then test the waters and come out as bi...then find ourselves and feel free to come out as gay. Still, it doesn't mean that you can't have an interest in him. Just know that it may not work out as you hope.

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  • Faceless
    12 years ago

    Reminds me of this one time in a bar I asked this chick what her name was and she didnt even tell me. She just point blank said she was gay. So I called her Gay the entire night. Some people are just rude.

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