Is it normal that i (24f) have never been asked out?

I'm 24 and never once had a guy in real life show interest or flirt with me. I only ever found someone through online dating. Throughout school, work, hanging out with people and losing 30 pounds/wearing make up, talking to people even asking guys out not one guy has ever been attracted to me, flirted with me or showed interest. Have most (average looking) people really had someone come up and ask them out or is it more rare than I think? If it hasn't happened by now should i just give up?

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  • Iszzy123

    Ppl flaky these days so don’t expect much from anyone

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  • Mammal-lover

    You are stressing about it to much. Have confidence in yourself and people will be interested

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  • CDmale4fem

    At some point you will. Just relax and focus on other aspects of your life. It's like the saying "a watched pot never boils". If you are pretty much trying to hard for something it seems like it won't. But all in due time, just don't lower yourself to do that ugly "have sex with someone for some attention. That really does you no good or justice. After awhile guys will talk and then they will be not nice and they actually will be assholes about it and soon you would be known as easy sleazy or some shit. Just focus on you and yourself, improve and better yourself. Education and smarts are hella sexy and then you can get thru life on your own and won't have to need a guy to take care of you.

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    • d0esnormalmatter

      Don't agree with this. The best way to get laid is not to "relax and focus on other areas of your life"

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      • CDmale4fem

        You are more than welcome to not agree with me. My thoughts are when a person is so focused on something like a bf/if it's like not much else matters and so they lose the person they really are and things get all clusterfuckered up.

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        • d0esnormalmatter

          Like a bf? Well ya if they have a boyfriend!!! Don't focus on getting laid if your already in a relationship.

          I just don't like how you seemed to be telling OP that if they wanted a partner or to be dated that they should just calm down and focus on other areas of their life. I think the strategy is the opposite. Focus LESS on other areas of your life and get a fucking partner, then once you have a stable partner it's time to relax and focus on other parts of your life. Assuming you want a partner in your life.

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      • peebsie

        I have no problems getting laid through meeting up with people online, I just wanted to know if it's normal to never have had someone come up to you in person and try to flirt or ask you out.

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        • d0esnormalmatter

          Ya see me other reply to you off my original comment. I was just addressing this guys advice, not your post nessecarily. As a woman you can get laid all you fucking want lol.

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  • Fugazi,again

    I'm like a 5/10 guy and I've had girls randomly throw themselves at me a few times in drunk situations. Tried online dating and got nowhere.

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  • Tealights

    It's difficult to give advice on this because we neither know you personally to gauge your personality and quirks, nor did you give a detailed description of your appearance other than weight and use of make-up.

    I can say from experience that men have many different ways of approaching women, and oddly enough a lot of it is really subtle due to most fearing rejection, so you may have been hit on countless times and not even know it.

    I guess the best way to think of it is: Men always have a reason behind their actions and words. It's not so much ulterior motives, but for some assholes it can be, but for most men it's more like... they rarely do things for 'just because,' unless they are deeply love/care for that person or thing. So when a random male stranger is talking to you about absolutely nothing (i.e. the weather, asking stupid questions with obvious answers, bragging, being fake surprised over normal shit, etc), he's flirting indirectly, but too nervous to ask you out outright.

    There are other ways men flirt, but the method I mentioned was the most confusing for me throughout my teens/young adult, because I always thought I was making a new friend and get hurt when they vanish or when they get annoyed with me for not wanting a relationship/having a boyfriend they didn't ask about.

    Basically, you could just be really oblivious.

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  • hosa

    what u prioritize is what u become.. u cant have everything..
    thats wat i learned in life..
    the more uncomfortable u are ( as in out of the meditative conscious mind) the more u need dopamine, so sacrifice has to be made in order to change..
    y dont u make the first move? ur passiveness seems to be the problem here.

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  • d0esnormalmatter

    I mean Its a little surprising but not like mind blowing shocking.

    Just being a decently attractive female who gets out and about isn't doing as much for women nowadays as it used to. Mainly because social media and online dating. Guys are nervous as shit to approach and ask out a girl so they hop on tinder and that way by the time the meet that person in real life for a date, they already know she is at least somewhat interested.

    I think what you need to do is decide how bad you actually want to date somebody. I would do online dating and if that hasn't worked before, just be a little less picky.

    Or if you aren't a fan of online dating, your best bet is just to show more signs of interest around guys and hope they catch on.

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    • peebsie

      I've done online dating before. I have no problem getting guys that way. I've met up with one guy who I thought was a catfish because he was so out of my league but thankfully he wasn't lol. I just don't get why if I join a dating site I get tons of messages in one day yet irl no guy seems to show interest. I dont facetune or anything and use not super flattering pics so I don't deceive any one and I've never gotten complaints about not looking like my pics.

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      • d0esnormalmatter

        Ya I mean what I'm trying to say is just because you don't get much "in person" attention does not mean something is wrong with you or your not attractive. That's more because of how society has shifted to where guys don't have to meet women in person so more often than bot the differ to lazy methods like online dating and social media.

        Trust me chief, I'm a horny guy and I know lots of horny guys that would date any girl with 4 working limbs. That's the dating advantage women have, wayyyy more options. More creeps to deal with however, so be careful lom.

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  • HolographicStability

    Thats not normal. Maybe there's something about you that isn't that appealing to them.

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  • FromTheSouthWeirdMan

    Do you get out a lot?

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    • peebsie

      In the past I have currently not as much but I still have chances where someone could ask me out if they wanted.

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    I have never asked someone out (to shy) But have had girls ask me out.

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