Is it normal that he won't take me to his place?

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I've been seeing this guy for a while, and whenever we try to make plans for the weekend, he seems unsure if he's busy or not(not too worried about that). But another thing is, I've never been to his apartment. He says him and his roomie made a rule that no one of the opposite sex is allowed to go to their place, and if he were to bring me over he wouldnt want his roomie to think he's a "slut".

All I know is that his roommate is a female and he said shes a few years older than him, I don't know her name or anything else.

You're going to think I'm crazy(im just really bothered by being lied to) but I did some background check myself to see if his ex-wife still lives with him, all it shows is that they share the same city residue. I'm assuming possibly its his ex-wife he's rooming with and won't tell me.

So is it normal for him to not let me over and be secretive about it? He sees me every weekend, but not the weekdays because I live a state away.

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  • thebuddah
    13 years ago

    Ok ur getting played

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  • ballparkdogg
    12 years ago

    he is probably married or something. get out while you can

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  • beastiessister
    13 years ago

    i'D dump him id i were you. this happened to my friend but she was to polite to sneack round and see whaat the guys apartment was like. so I went, And of course I found about a million sex toys, bras and pants everywere about a million girls phone numbers e.c.t g you should get out before you fall in too deep :/

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  • rayst
    13 years ago

    Maybe its not his ex but his actual wife!

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  • TyLee
    13 years ago

    Don't worry too much about it just yet! I live with my ex boyfriend for financial reasons and have had two relationships since then. I was honest about it but of course one of the guys was very bothered by it which is understandable. We have a no one can come over rule but it is a small apartment shared with a couple. So things get crowded. Anyway I truly was committed to my boyfriend (he was a jerk but that's not the point) I really was and nothing at all was going on with the ex. Some people really do have financial issues and I see this as pretty normal. (my extremely rich parents hate me and don't care about me so they almost totally cut me off, I'm still young) and yes this is a true, but sad story. Anyway see what else you can find out about the situation before deciding about it.

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  • buckman
    13 years ago

    I wouldn't be dating him any longer... It's too shady. If you're his girlfriend, why would his roommate think he's a "slut?"
    But, it could just not be a nice place and he feels embarrassed, or his roommate could be his sister or something. I guess you never really know, maybe he really likes her but she's unavailable to him and he just doesn't want to blow a shot at what could be by bringing you over? Either way, no matter what it is, he should just stop being shady and tell you how it is.

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  • dappled
    13 years ago

    Normally I tell people to give the benefit of the doubt, but this sounds very suspicious indeed.

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  • Inspector019
    13 years ago

    Yes it's normal, if he is still married or in a relationship he doesn't want you to find out about. Who is to say he is really divorced. You may be his fun weekend getaway or I like to call it, "mistress". I'd ditch him. Even if he weren't in a relationship, he obviously doesn't like you enough to not care what his "roommate" might say. He's a loser. Dump him before you find out the ugly truth and wind up hurt.

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