Is it normal that he wants me back so badly?

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I recently broke up with my boyfriend (there is a reason). Well, he was disrespecting me due to something I'm not going to say on here, and I told him to not do it again multiple times because it made me uncomfortable, and he kept arguing with me and denying that he was doing it. Well, after him not wanting to even cooperate on the subject and lying to me (changing his story each time I tried talking to him about it, then he would get defensive)...I broke up with him! I could not deal with it anymore and we have been arguing a lot lately. We had been together for over a year. Well, not that we are broken up, he is willing to communicate and is BEGGING for me back! Won't stop calling me, texting me, trying to fix things NOW that we are broken up! Can any guys specifically tell me why he is NOW willing to cooperate after I broke up with him? Why could he not just cooperate before? Now he wants me back ...badly. Is this normal????

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  • Darkoil
    11 years ago | pl

    You don't realise what you have until you lose it.

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    • flutterhigh
      11 years ago

      Except for sanity. When you lose your sanity, you have no idea what you had.

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      • [Old Memory]
        11 years ago

        I love that^^^^

        You're quite profound when you want to be.

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  • VioletTrees
    11 years ago

    People will tell you that they'll cooperate with you after you've broken up with them, but that doesn't mean that they'll actually do it. Some people will promise ANYTHING to get their ex back. If he didn't respect you enough to listen to him before, I don't think there's any reason to believe he'll respect you now, especially since if he respected you, he wouldn't be harassing you by constantly calling and texting you.

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  • iEatZombies_
    11 years ago

    By not leaving you alone, it shows more that you are like his possession. He needs to be respectful enough to leave you the time and space to figure this out on your own. Also, don't break up with him just to "let him have it". That would be plain immature.

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    • VioletTrees
      11 years ago

      I keep seeing you saying things that make sense!

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      • iEatZombies_
        11 years ago

        Yeah. *Struts stuff* I'm good.

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  • thinkingaboutit
    11 years ago

    so you were mad that he was watching porn. lol. take him back, you'll never take his porn.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      actually that is not what this is about, thanks anyways. was actually nothing close to it

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      He doesn't want me posting the situation on here....which is kind of weird because it's not like any of you guys know who he is lol...but if he feels uncomfortable, then it's fine. That's how our relationship works. Mutual respect. Which is why we broke up in the first place. He can't respect me and make me feel okay, then I'll show him that I am still willing to do so. IT WAS ALSO HIS IDEA OF THE WHOLE "MUTUAL RESPECT, LET'S NOT MAKE EACH OTHER UNCOMFORTABLE OR FEEL BAD" IN THE FIRST PLACE> I agreed to it, and the relationship has worked out perfectly....until now. and it's been over a year...so yeah

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      • thinkingaboutit
        11 years ago

        visit askhodgetwins on youtube. they have answers for these kind of dilemmas.

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  • Avant-Garde
    11 years ago

    He now knows what it is that he lost. He sees your importance.

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  • gargamel
    11 years ago

    I agree with Darkoil. If I were you I'd give him a chance. :)

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    • VioletTrees
      11 years ago

      Why are you telling them to give him a chance? You don't know what he did. He might've been disrespecting them about something really traumatic or hurtful.

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      • flutterhigh
        11 years ago

        That's the issue with this site. There are hardly any situations in which the advice of a gaggle of uninformed strangers will help in any way. For all we know this guy was aggressive, manipulative, even violent, and here we are just nonchalantly saying "take him back", without understanding any of the context or the people involved.

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  • furball?
    11 years ago

    well, r u hot?

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  • coolio75650932
    11 years ago

    i know what happened :3 he cheated on you didnt he? oh and not that normal a normal person would ask you in person not text,fax,phone,email constantly :3 (hope this helps happy 4th of july)

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Wow, that explains it. You deleted my comment, thanks for giving me the answer to my comment.

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    • rosebudmarie
      11 years ago

      what?

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    • iEatZombies_
      11 years ago

      Well, damn. I bet it was good.
      It's always the good ones.

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