Is it normal that he's so offended by this?

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I'm a female, and I have a male friend. I definitely don't have feelings for him (maybe a little, in a purely physical and sexual way), but he and my best friend are together and I'm in a relationship. He's just a platonic friend.

Anyway, he and I have this thing where we're mean to each other. Just stupid, harmless things, like calling each other stupid or bitches, or trading insults that are obviously untrue (I have dark skin, so he likes calling me Indonesian or calling me a terrorist). This may sound weird, but we just like messing with each other.

Recently, I don't know how it started, it changed. We started saying really mean things to each other. Personal things. He said something really, really mean about my parents yesterday, and I retorted with my own insult, that ended with a loud "Jesus Christ, dude!"

Big mistake. He's very religious, and he immediately exploded, yelling at me for taking the name of his savior in vain. I forgot about how religious he was and immediately apologized, but he won't talk to me. I feel really bad about it — just because I don't share his beliefs doesn't mean I have to say things like that in front of him — and I just want things to go back to normal. I have apologized sincerely and I've cried from sheer guilt a few times, although not in front of him.

Is it normal for him to get so offended? Is it normal for me to feel so bad?

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  • iEatZombies_
    11 years ago

    He can dish it but he can't take it? Well, God dammit.

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  • anti-hero
    11 years ago

    Zip it terrorist.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago

    Agreed with iEatZombies, if he can dish it, he should be able to take it.

    Granted, I don't see how he doesn't understand that what you said wasn't a purposeful quip regarding his religion. I would say that 99.99% of religious people that I know (including myself) understand that most people that "use the Lord's name in vain" don't mean it as an insult against their religion, or at least, wouldn't be THAT angry about it.

    He's acting like a hormonal little bitch. The two of you need to patch things up, apologize to each other, and retrace your boundaries. It's definitely not normal for him to be that upset about you using Christ's name in vain and I would venture to guess that there is much more than that going on that he is upset about and he is venting his reaction through the "Jesus Christ, dude!" remark.

    Just a thought, though.

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  • Ihavefunsex
    11 years ago

    uhm well he had a reason to be mad but not blow up like that also also Jesus forgave murders so he should be able to forgive u

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  • 100coolguy
    11 years ago

    idiot he is! im religous and i dont do that! i wouldn't give a shit about that!

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  • Unimportant
    11 years ago

    According to my observations, most religious people are freaks.

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  • alv1592
    11 years ago

    Well personally I don't like when people say "Jesus f***ing Christ" because it sounds blasphemous. But all you said was "Jesus Christ" and you said it jokingly, so I'd say he overreacted a bit.

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  • fullhouse
    11 years ago

    You'll burn in hell bitch!
    hehe I am messing with you. that guy is a bitch actually :-)
    But are you sure you don' t have any feelings for him? I feel you care for him

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      I do care for him, but only as a friend; I really do care about his well being, and as I said, I've had sexual feelings for him, but he just isn't the type of guy I want to be in a relationship with.

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      • fullhouse
        11 years ago

        There's no person in the world besides my parents and my girlfriend ehom I'd spare so much.of attention. may be it's me.
        Remember he said mean things about your parents? He must realise that. If you're feelings for him just physical then why cry when isn't talking to you? Either you're 'Please Everyone' kind of person or you have more feelings for him than you know. And for your question I'd say he probably deserved the words from you.

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  • Mando
    11 years ago

    Well you both crossed the line from antagonistic humour to hurtful insult. You've apologized and expressed your regret. If he is going to be all pouty and act injured just to rub it in and conveniently not take responsibility for his part in escalating things then you should just step back. I would give him time but really wouldn't eat any more humble pie for this big cry-baby.

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  • ygrowup
    11 years ago

    If he is religious as you say he is, it will pass with time. You seem like a special friend, that he will someday hate to loose!

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  • dirtybirdy
    11 years ago

    Oh for christ sake. Jesus probably thought you were just giving a shout out. No harm right?! Why do people let words hurt them so much?? Save the cryin for when you're getting your ass bible thumped by priesty. Punch that pussy in the throat for me.

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  • AbnormallyAwesome
    11 years ago

    As a christian, he'd be called to love and to forgive. And he is taking Christs name in vain, when he uses it as an excuse to hate on you. This clearly isn't your fault, but it's normal to feel guilty, when you're a nice person. I hope you two can work it out, and that he apologizes too. Also I hope that he will get over whatever his real prolem is.

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  • kyanviado
    11 years ago

    You dear lady are a demonic bitch.enjoy hell.

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  • kelili
    11 years ago

    Has he apologised for the things he said about your parents?

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  • Imsupernormal
    11 years ago

    If he is religious. You need to dump his ass ASAP.

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