Is it normal that he never really finished?

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I dated this guy for a while and he would hook up and stuff a lot. He was always pretty into it and he wanted to fool around 24/7. But my main concern is that although we covered most of the bases (not home run) he never finished. He said it was because he masturbated a lot so it took longer, which didn't help my insecurity. It was my first serious relationship so I wasn't the best at everything. I am just concerned if I really am that bad? Is it normal that he didn't finish even though he would get excited even if we just hugged or something?

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  • dappled
    13 years ago

    I have a female friend who told me the same thing about a guy. Making a guy "finish" is generally a little too easy (to be honest). The things that would stand in the way of this are often psychological and these are issues which are no reflection on you whatsoever. It would have been the same with any girl.

    His comment about masturbation lengthening the time it took him is correct, by the way. Plenty of men secretly masturbate directly before sex because it makes them last longer or we think about dead kittens or old ladies or whatever it takes to keep the wolf from the door. It makes it less enjoyable for us but we do actually care to a scary degree about pleasing you (or rather, about putting in a good performance). This leads to all kinds of anxiety and what you described may really just be a symptom of this.

    I'd guess he felt as bad and as dejected as you may do. We all want to be seen in a certain way. In a sexual situation, women want to be seen as desirable and men want to be seen as virile and masterful. Don't let this experience make you feel insecure. Sex is a really simple thing that we build up in our minds to be difficult.

    Honestly, don't worry.

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