Is it normal that he is acting like this?

There is a guy that I have known for a couple years, and you could definitely call us friends but we aren't very close and don't hang out outside of school. We just talk and have a casual relationship. Well, last week we ended up by chance being relatively alone in a room, and he came up to me and told me I was beautiful ("so, so beautiful", to be specific). Completely out of the blue. I don't consider myself beautiful by any means, but I said thanks, because knowing his personality, it wasn't THAT weird. But then he said it again. And he was just smiling at me the whole time and staring at me. I started to feel like this was strange behavior even for him, so I said goodnight (we were both at the school for an extracurricular activity) and left. As I was walking out, he blew me a kiss!
This interaction definitely stood out as very bizarre, but I kind of forgot about it until the next day in class, when he told me again that I was beautiful, twice. The weekend passed, and I saw him today in class and he said I was beautiful again, completely out of context of anything (he pretty much just inserted it casually into the beginning of a random sentence), then ten minutes later he said I was hot, in that joking way where you can't tell if someone is actually joking. Then as I was leaving class he said he loved me.
What is going on?? I haven't been encouraging this at all or, that I know of, doing anything different to cause this attention from him. And it's not like he is being sarcastic; it all seems genuine. I really can't figure it out. And he has a girlfriend, by the way, which I had forgotten about but confirmed today. What is wrong with him/what is going on here?!

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  • Wow, you mean you've never heard of a guy cheating?

    Stop pretending to be naive.

    Sadly most people cheat. Most guys. Most girls and this is how it starts -even though he's horrible at it.

    You said you're not doing anything to encourage this but when he compliments you are you smiling back and saying something sweet to him ?

    That's called encouragement.

    Why don't you have a nice chat with his girlfriend and tell her he keeps telling you how beautiful you are and blowing you kisses and see if she thinks he's flirting with you / doing something wrong?

    Post back here and tell us what she says.

    Look, you don't want this guy. There's nothing wrong with a guy flirting with a girl trying to get laid but this guy is flirting with you trying to get laid while he has a girlfriend so he's a cheating dog and can't be trusted. If you date him he'll probably do the same thing to you. Besides that you should look out for other girls and not stab them in the back. We all live in the same world and we all interact with each other. If we don't protect ourselves and each other our society will be an even bigger mess than it is today.

    If you don't like him you need to tell him stop flirting with you because it's making you feel uncomfortable around him and shame on him for doing that while having a girlfriend. Tell him you think lesser of him as a person now because he's being dishonest.

    If you do like him, tell him he needs to break up with his girlfriend if he wants to date you. And MAKE SURE he really does it before you do anything with him.

    But honestly you should stay away from this guy since he's a cheater and doesn't respect girls.

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    • Actually I don't say anything nice back, I just say "okay" or give him a weird look. But I definitely see what you're saying. Thanks for the advice!

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  • Hi. Me again :)

    Glad you're getting it now.

    So, you just say 'okay' or do the weird look and you don't mean to flirt back but did you know that some guys still won't get it?

    For example 'Okay' could be interpreted as a green light to keep doing it.

    Some guys might think "Well she doesn't tell me to stop so it's a GO !"
    "She hasn't talked about liking any other guys so I'm in!"
    OR

    "Since she's already 'OK' with me flirting with her, I KNOW if I just keep doing it she'll come around and we'll hook up soon !"

    I think you should really set him straight about how you feel but in a friendly way.

    Truthfully I can't even count how many girls I've known that hooked up with guys they said they'd 'never touch' because they aren't attracted to him at all but he won't stop flirting with them and sooner or later the girls go for it.

    Girls in general have very little will power and are easily won over. It's strange, even if they don't like a guy but they put up with him pretty soon they get used to him always being there and flirting. The attention starts to feel good and the guy becomes a safe haven for her. They get really comfortable and even start to look forward to seeing him. Then some girls either give it a try cause her other relationships all failed and this guy is "safe" or the guy disappears and she totally misses him then they hook up when he comes back into the picture.

    Right now you feel a little weird / indifferent about him flrting with you, but guess what if you don't shut him down and he keeps doing it for weeks/months your heart will start to let him in just like I wrote and the better flirt he becomes you'll start finding yourself really enjoying his company and wanting to hook up then he's got you, lol.

    I think I mentioned before the only part I don't like about this is that he's got a girlfriend and he's being trash so you really should shut him down soon ;)

    Please keep us informed, I'm sure we'd all like to hear what you do and what he does.

    Just remember at your age this stuff can be really confusing and none of you are experts yet ;)

    Good luck!

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  • Obviously he's trying to get out of the "Friends" zone with you cause he wants to hook up.

    To bad he doesn't know what he's doing yet lol.

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    • You really think so? 0_o it just seems odd because he has a girlfriend.

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  • Paradiddle

    I uh, don't think this one is very hard to figure out. I'm sure you've got the answer. Still, you said that this wasn't too odd considering his personality and that he has a girlfriend so he should really be requested to stop that. This whole thing sounds very possible since you don't actually have to try or anything to get someone's attention but he is taken and as such, should halt that act even if he did like you.

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