Is it normal that he is 43 and i am 18?

OH shit! My instincts scream that you are looking for trouble! However, not being in a position to judge this man as I don't know him obviously, to be fair I will say maybe he really does love you. My sound common sense and experience in life however leans me towards vouching that he probably doesn't. Most older men such as himself are experiencing a mid life crisis and need to prove to themselves that they still have it. So the trophy 18 yr old is a perfect ego boost.

The way I see this turning out is that the more clingy you get, the more he will move away from you and eventually end it. He is most likely toying with you for now. Yes, he most likely is married, unless you can prove that he isn't. Married men can be very sly when it comes to hiding their wives and making excuses about their situation.

"We're having problems"
"We're seperated"
"We're divorced"
"she's cheating on me"
"she treats me badly"

The list is endless.

Also, what you have to take into consideration, and trust me on this as an older woman who has been involved in serious relationships since the age of 15... You will eventually realise that his interests are way more boring than your own and he is probably slowing down a whole lot now. 43 is not OLD, but it's older, and even at 37, I myself find it hard to keep up with my activities as a 25 yr old. For instance, I can't drink and party till dawn and still get up the next morning and do it all over again anymore like I used to. Keeping up with you is going to get difficult for him and you are going to get bored eventually. I have a friend who is 40 and has just recently met a man of 66. She's still reletively on the go for a woman her age and young at heart and likes to party. This man is reletively fit, and she thought there would be no problem as they were both on the older end of the scale, but the differences are starting to show after 3 months and she's already calling him an old fart and getting bored. She wants to go out clubbing and it's not his scene. She wants to go out to the fun park and it's not his scene. Oh LORD, the problems are actually endless. He's stuck in his routine, every Sunday he goes to his beach hut up the coast and has a bbq with his friends, then lays down for a nap and goes home again. He has all sorts of funny things like that that he does in a routine manner. A 43 yr old man probably also has a few routines that you will roll your eyes at. I know you think there is status and prestige in dating an older man, but your blinkers will fall off sooner or later and hopefully you won't be in heaps of trouble with his wife, if he has one, or totally messed up and broken hearted. Also, at 18, most of us tend to grow out of our relationships until we've matured a lot more.

Depending on your own personal level of maturity, I would proceed with caution if I was you, find out everything you can by either asking him or through devious methods - I would - then if the co

You are young and naive, and you're going to find out the hard way that this man does not love you like you think he does. Any 43-year-old man who claims to love a 17-year-old is not normal. There's a reason he's single at that age and preying on young, silly girls like yourself.

I hate girls like you. This guy is a fucking pervert and you're a fucking dumb slut. Game over.

Pedo alert. This man should be put behind bars. Siiiickkkkkkkkkkk

You are so niave. He is in love with your young body, that's it.

If he claims it's more, invite him over to meet your parents.

If he says it's "not the sex", cut it off for a while and see how long this "love" lasts.

I know you won't stop seeing him, your ego won't let you. So prepare yourself.

There is no shortage of hot, young, stupid teenagers for him to prey on. When you've done all the things you never thought you would (to prove your love to him), enough times, he'll move on to another one.

The only way for you to "get it" is to go thru it. Live and learn - the hard way.

Find a little more about him. I've been in a relationship with a man 20 years my senior, and it's perfectly normal; people who say otherwise just haven't been in a similar situation. The only thing is you have to try and understand that since he is much older, he has seen more and done more. He may be a nice guy, but also may not. Hang out with him and ask people who know him what they think of him.

I disagree with people who say he's a pervert. It depends a lot from the situation. Is he interested in what you have to say? Does he believe you should have interests in your life? Does he support you and does he make you feel happy and respected?

If you eventually do get in a relationship, tell your parents. You're their child and they love you. Talk to them, possibly with your man as well and tell them how you both feel. Good luck :)

no it's not fucking normal.
And stop flirting with the man!

Both YOU and him are fucking gross

Be VERY, VERY careful!

If by "real relationship" you mean "sex", then you should tell your parents immediately.

It is NOT NORMAL for a 43-year-old man to be interested in a 17-year-old.

Unless he is mentally disabled, he is taking advantage of you and you can bet he knows it too.
No matter how sweet he may seem, you are being seduced by a pervert.

Well you are in an awkward spot now, aren't you? And when this falls apart - you also get to work with him.

He may be a charming man. He may not be. He may be married.

But whatever - it is not just the age difference in years, it is that you are quite young: a teenager.

You are crushing. The fact that you sound swept off your feet is sketchy. Be careful. Proceed real slowly if at all. My advice would be not to. But you will. So at least take it slow and find out everything about this guy.

love has no age. but aperntly the law does, but that shouldent be a problem because your turning 18. so what is the problem? are you sure your in love? questions like these take a long time to answer, take your time just because there is no rush. wheather in relationships, or just simple respones

I'd say it's normal. But then again, the person I curently have feelings for is also a lot older than me. As long as you both care about each other and he makes you feel like you can trust him, I don't think there's a problem with it. Some people might look down on this kind of relationship, so be ready for it. As for your parents, maybe if they met him and realized he's a good guy they'd have an easier time with it?

Gross

Don't do that. Sick. Saggy balls

Is he a hot 43-year-old like Tom Cruise?

I love how on this site, dating an older man is completely fucked up, but shagging your little sister is totally normal LOL

LOl he prob already fuckedl ike 10 girls before you.

Not normal. Do you have some sort of father figure issues going on? Young girls that fall for men considerably older than themselves usually do.

Evaluate your situation carefully, it is NEVER normal for a 40 year old to feel attracted to a 17 year old. You're both in two completely different stages in life, and finding common interests and activities must be excruciating for both of you. You're young and active and he's...not. It's not normal, get help.

everybody here needs to watch Woody Allen's Manhattan.

I'd rather be a sick old pervert with a load of money, and a young Queen on my arm than a moody bitch little immature party boy who miss treats his girl...
Yes its NORMAL to want to be treated like a queen!!! :)
Communication is the key!