Is it normal that he hasn't asked me to be his girlfriend yet?

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So it's been about 8 months now that I have been seeing this guy. He's 21 and I'm 19. Neither of us have ever been in a romantic relationship before and we lost our virginity together. We act romantic with each other and I know for sure that we are exclusive. But it's been almost 8 months of what I would consider a romantic relationship and he still hasn't asked me to be his girlfriend.
There's a few things you need to know about him:
He's very insecure, He doesn't pursue girls (I had to pursue him),and he battles with depression
I don't know if these would have anything to do with it but it's the main reason why I haven't given up on him

I know I could just ask him myself but I'm afraid that if he's not ready to commit that he'll push me away. It took us a long time to get to the point where we feel comfortable with each other (probably around 7 months) but I do feel like it's time to take the next step.
more than anything i just wanna know that he's serious about this and feels the same way about me as i do about him and that's why i want him to ask me.

is it normal that he hasn't asked me to be his gf yet?

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  • Short4Words
    8 years ago

    I mean you are his girlfriend by all accounts does he really need to say it? Seems elementary.

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    • MysticLane
      8 years ago

      well it would make me feel more secure about the relationship and i wanna know that he is as serious about it as i am. if he's not then i'd rather not take it any farther and get hurt worse

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      • Short4Words
        8 years ago

        Are you afraid of asking him?

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        • MysticLane
          8 years ago

          well I'm not 100% opposed to it but i'm worried that it might push him away if he's not ready. And also I want him to ask me because it would prove that he really cares

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          • Short4Words
            8 years ago

            I think you made it clear when you said neither him or you have been in a romantic relationship before. This is yours and his first time he might not know when it does or doesn't make sense to say something like that. Also account for his depression and shyness. All of those things say he is an inexperienced guy who's mind mind not be occupied with the whole make her mine thing in his head or he's scared you'll scare him away.

            In other words I don't think you can expect the norm from this guy right this moment, so maybe you're the one should bring it up.

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            • MysticLane
              8 years ago

              thanks this is actually really helpful. I'm considering bringing it up soon cause I feel like if I wait any more it's gonna drive me crazy

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          • mypenisinyourmouth
            8 years ago

            "...i'm worried that it might push him away if he's not ready."

            He was pretty ready to be having sex with you so why shouldn't he be ready to commit to you in words as he has already done in penis?

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  • Arm0se
    8 years ago | pl

    I hate it when girls do this. Why is it his duty to ask? YOU ask HIM to be your boyfriend.

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    • Wild_Child
      8 years ago

      ^^This.

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    • MysticLane
      8 years ago

      no I totally agree that it's not his duty. The reason I want him to ask me is because I feel like i put in more effort than he does and I don't wanna keep being the one to move us forward. I just wanna know that he's serious about the relationship and i kinda feel that if i asked he might just say yes cause he doesn't want what we do have to end yet.
      idk if my worries are ridiculous or not I have pretty bad anxiety though.

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  • c'MonBABIE
    8 years ago

    It seems like...the man is not that into you, just ask him

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  • iEatZombies_
    8 years ago

    Chances are he already sees it that way. If you're insecure about it, just ask him if he'll make it official.

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  • TheCockRoach
    8 years ago

    The real question OP is asking is whether or not he's willing to get her pregnant.

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  • SkullsNRoses
    8 years ago

    If he's too scared to make it official when you're already exclusive then you should be asking if he's really worth all the effort.

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  • NathanScot
    8 years ago

    Your bf is a fucking pussy .Dont know what the fuck he's waiting for.Depressed or not.
    Alternatively,ur already his gf by all accounts.Cher'

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