Is it normal that he goes weeks without talking to me?

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The guy i'm hanging out with i've known for six years, since high school. We're 23 and 24 years old.

The first few times we hung out it was initiated by him, and he would only text about plans (he's not a big texter or phone user really).

Then, we we're supposed to hang out one day but it didn't work out. Then, soon after he got a job at a video game store working full time. After that he hadn't asked me to hang out or really initiate texting other than to reply to mine.

When i went by his store 2-3 weeks later it was as if nothing had happened, he was flirting with me, talking to me a lot, and i went to lunch with him where he bought my food, and he hugged me before i left(he always hugs me before i leave). I asked him to hang out with me the following Monday and we had a really good time, he held my hand, asked if he could kiss me and later we ended up making out.Then he took me home and he hugged and kissed me bye.

But, now it's been 2 weeks since i've seen him and he's doing the same thing again. I text him, and he replies but he doesn't make much effort and doesn't ask to hang out.

If he wasn't interested, and only wanted to kiss/make out with me why would he waste 2.5 months of acting interested, getting to know me and flirting?

The weeks we hung out where he asked were before he got a job, so he had more free time. Is he that busy?

I'm not really sure what to do here besides cutting out my texting and waiting on him to come to me.

Any advice would be great.
Thanks!

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  • SweetSherry
    12 years ago

    You're not a priority in his life forget about him guys like that never change he will always treat you that way and even if you take the relationship to the next level you'll always have to chase after him call him txt him arrange dates etc

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  • TheBatman
    12 years ago

    if you known him for 6 years you could always be bold enough to ask him.

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  • chaosdragoon1
    12 years ago

    He's one of those "out of sight, out of mind" kind of people. Sadly I am too. But he does like you. That is obvious.

    That and not every guy has girls on the front burner.

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  • willie_tell
    12 years ago

    So it is 4 months later. So how is your relationship with him now? I think he likes you but does not know how to make the moves. I also agree that if you were to say .... get married to him that his demeanor would not change you will always have to chase after him.

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  • pixie_dust
    12 years ago

    if u stop worrying about him, youll be a lot better off. that way, if u stop texting him or initiating contact, he'll start wondering about u. plus id be willing to bet hes a lost causeat any rate.

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  • xstarbugyx
    12 years ago

    I agree ^

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  • ygrowup
    12 years ago

    He is just one of those guys where you have to make all the moves to further this relationship! Good luck with your choices

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  • MssMurd3r
    12 years ago

    Maybe he has a girlfriend and just talks to you when he's mad at her or something.

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    • teaforone
      12 years ago

      He's not married, and isn't seeing anyone.

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    • wigsplitz
      12 years ago

      Yeah, I was going to ask...Is it possible he's married or with someone?...

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  • rawr123451
    12 years ago

    Maibie he got a new gf. Or he was just trying to see how far you would go....?

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  • petawawacouple69
    12 years ago

    He's really a successful guy to have a full time job at a video game store. He sounds like a real keeper. Your post is pathetic

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    • Jen118584
      12 years ago

      I find your post to be more pathetic. You have no idea of his circumstances.

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