Is it normal that he gets jealous?

So I just want some advice on this, I'm in a sort of ''open relationship'' with this guy, we're more that just fwb because we actually spend time together but still it's something ''no strings attached'' so at first I was kinda sad because I would have actually wanted to see if sth else could happen but now im ok THING IS that he gets jealous, for example if I go out to a party or with friends he asks if I kissed someone and he's always asking me if I find this or this other guy attractive etc and it's driving me crazyyyyy, I can't avoid falling in the game because im also insecure but its getting toxic, and every time I ask him if it bothers him, he says it doesn't but then he's making those questions again and idddddk what to do it's annoying, im 19 btw and hes 22

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Comments ( 14 )
  • IrishPotato

    Friends with benefits is nonsense that never works out. Either be with him or just don't do anything at all.

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    • nikkiclaire

      But it worked for my wanna be girlfriend Mila Kunis and Justin Timberlake in that movieeeeee. Plus New York was pretty 😂😂😂 and there was a great flash mob scene.

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      • IrishPotato

        Didn't it not work tho? Fek I didn't see this movie anyway.

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        • nikkiclaire

          Watch it. She shows side boob lol

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        • nikkiclaire

          I don't remember but she is HOT. Plus she shills Jack Daniels or Jim beam or something 😋🤣🤣

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  • BlindSpot

    We are human beings. No strings attached is impossible, emotions will always be involved whether you want to admit it or not. Some people are just addicted to the feeling of a broken heart.

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  • Cornflower

    He seems like a mess. I have a feeling he doesn't really understand the nature of your relationship and refuses to adhere to it. I'm suggesting a polite thanks-but-no-thanks.

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  • nikkiclaire

    It's not an open relation. I'm poly. Jealousy has no business in poly relations. Dump him. He wants to change you and take control.

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  • SwickDinging

    He's just being a jealous baby and is butthurt because he said no strings attached because he thought he was God's gift to you, and now you're the one going off having fun elsewhere whilst he pines for you.

    Tell him you don't want to continue your fwb situation because he clearly has feelings for you and you don't want to hurt him. You can't have a healthy relationship with him now anyway so you may as well be honest with him before you move on to someone who is emotionally capable of having a real relationship with you.

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  • Ummitsstillme

    Yeah most people can't handle open or fwb relationships, they let emotions get in the way of sex with multiple partners.

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  • Unknown10i

    Friends with benefits doesn’t work in the real world unless you’re a prostitute and he’s a john.

    People always want more, more meaning a steady exclusive relationship. That being said he does sound quite possessive of you and that’s a red flag.

    Dump his needy controlling ass for a man who is secure and respects your space.

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  • JD777

    Columbusbiguy could be right - he’s turned on, not jealous, when he hears about it. One of the common things in the swinger world is hot-wifing, where the guy likes to share his hot wife, either while watching or to hear about it later. Another possibility is that he is jealous because we wishes you could move beyond FWB to gf. Most any guy who wants to be with a certain woman is at least a little jealous of guys she sleeps with.

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  • Columbusbiguy

    Perhaps hs asking because the thought of you with others actually turns him on. Ask him if he wants to watch sometime. Or perhaps he wants a threesome or more with you.

    If you have such a relationship, you should be able to talk openly about the parameters of said relationship. If you cant, then this type of relwtionship will not work with him or anyone else.

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    • nikkiclaire

      Nope. He isn't a cuck. He seems like a jealous dickhead.

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