Is it normal that he feels this way?

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Someone that I care about a lot says that he doesn't like being alive in this world sometimes. He wishes to not exist because there's no point in living...

I hate it when he talks nonsense. I try to help him feel better and tell him that he's not like that. When I first met him he was a very happy person and made me smile all the time. Now it just seems like he doesn't care about meeting me or the people who care about him. I used to feel that way mot o the time. Suicidal thoughts and all but there's so much more to lice foe than to give up on your life. Why has he changed? Sometimes i feel like I'm the reason for his cause..I wish there was something that I could do to make him forget about his negativity...IIN?

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Based on 23 votes (11 yes)
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  • Mando
    11 years ago

    Well, do you want to continue being his wailing wall? No? Then tell him to see a therapist, counsellor, his family doctor or someone who can help.

    It is one thing to be a supportive friend. Another when he takes advantage of that and burns you out with his depressing negativity. Tell him you have limits and that he needs to find help elsewhere.

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  • shade_ilmaendu
    11 years ago

    The best thing you can do is be there for him as a friend without pushing or making him feel pressured. Let him know he's cared for, make him feel important without directly telling him so. Drop little hints, compliments, make him see yourself the way you see him in the way you treat him and speak towards him.

    And do not blame yourself. This is a crazy, fucked up world we live in. So many people are depressed and suicidal. It's no wonder in a world that has us chasing cars and houses, working jobs we hate to buy shit we don't need... And we forget about ourselves. We've been overcome by ego.

    Aside from what I've already suggested, if he starts giving things away or becomes suddenly much happier, those can be warning signs. You can't force him to get professional help and he can't be taken in against his will unless he actually tries something, and it's not like you can be there to guard him 24/7, but if he starts acting stranger than usual, there are centers you can call that will give you advice, just find the local crisis center in your area.

    But ultimately, you cannot blame yourself. It's his life and his decision, whether it be wise or not, it's outside of your control..

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    I like to think of life as a race. And of course in a race you're never in perfect tandem with anyone; there are just those who can match your pace, others who are ahead and still others who are behind.

    Weep when he weeps and be happy when he is. That's the true mark of a friend. Beyond that, I don't know what you can do.

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  • ygrowup
    11 years ago

    Be careful he does not pull you down with him, encourage him to get some professional help

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    Maybe he's drained.

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  • purplegirl22
    11 years ago

    I feel that way all the time. I honestly don't know why I'm here. Life is meaningles, especially mine. My best advice get him to talk to someone a professional or even a friend, it helps to talk about things.

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  • noemimi93
    11 years ago

    Forgive me for some of my misspelled words..I was typing too fast

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