Is it normal that he changed that much ?

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Hey everyone
I have a problem, me and my BF were been together for 2 years until now. On 21 september 2014 he left my country to study abroad, so now we are having a distance relationship. at the beginning he was nice he talk to me a lot in whatsapp or Skype or he calls me and I did the same. He even shared everything with me but after that, once he started school we talk at the end of the day and then he say that he should sleep I dont understand WHY, me everytime I remember him even at class I write to him in whatsapp or at the breaks or lunch time But he doesnt do that!!!
He changed a lot but he still say that he loves me so much!! What should I do ? it is been just 3 weeks and he is not doing efforts to make it work and when I try to talk abt that he said where is the problem I dont know what you are talking about I really dont know what should I do.
Sometimes when I ask him what are you doing right now he replies that he is watching videos or reading some stupid things, but he prefers that then talking to me ???? he does not try to talk to me even if he is bored!

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  • Darkoil
    9 years ago

    The guy left the country to get away from you, take the hint missy.

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    • shuggy-chan
      9 years ago

      Haha thats brutal xD

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    • monaliza7000
      9 years ago

      :'( :'(

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  • Dream_Killer
    9 years ago

    Well, he went to another country to study right? You ever think that maybe that is what he is doing? I'm assuming he is in college in another country and if that so then he is more than likely busy with his academics. I'm pretty sure he has homework and a lot of books to read and test to study for. I mean you did say once he started school he only talked to you at the end of the day.

    With any free time he does have when he is not studying, maybe he is sleeping, or having fun with friends he met while he was there? He is in another country after all, I'm sure he did some sight seeing.

    Yeah it sucks that he isn't talking to you, but it could be because he is just busy. The worse case scenario is that within those 3 weeks he met someone new and that's why he isn't talking to you, but I highly doubt that someone would throw a way a perfectly good 2 year relationship for someone they just met in a foreign country. lol

    More than likely, he is just busy, so chillax.
    How long is he suppose to be gone?

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    • monaliza7000
      9 years ago

      He is supposed to be there for 1 year and after that I will MAYBE join him next year I am not really sure about that ... (and that is another problem)
      I am sure he didnt meent someone I know him..
      But he is busy with studying a lot maybe but I think it's tooo much.. Last time I told him that if I dont miss him or if he doesnt love me anymore he should say it, so he replies that if I shouldnt wait from him many efforts he said he talk to me when he can and if I thinkt that i dont miss him or he doesnt love me that is crazy...
      But I caaant stand that I feel like i am not longer one of the most important thing in his life

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      • Dream_Killer
        9 years ago

        Being separated from the person you love could drive anyone crazy. You are probably use to him being around talking to you all the time, but now he is far away and its hard to deal with. I'm pretty sure you are still one of the most important things in his life, but so is his education. With education he can get a good job and hopefully support himself and you.

        Going one year without him is going to be hard to do, and if you can you should join him next year. I mean if you are really serious about this relationship and you want to be with him. If my significant other were to be leaving the country I'd go with him in a heartbeat.

        I can't really imagine what you must feel because I never been a situation like this. I went a 3 days without talking to my boyfriend and I was feeling awful.What you feel must be 100 times worse.

        He hasn't been gone that long, so I'm sure if you give it a little time you'll adjust better and won't feel so upset and it'll be easier to deal with. ^^

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  • Nokiot9
    9 years ago

    If he is gonna be gona for a long time and he is dodging you, its probably time to move on. Long distance relationships are really difficult to maintain.

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  • lc1988
    9 years ago

    He's in a new place...lots of new stuff to do and friends to be made at school. If you went to a different country would you be waiting by your phone for him to write you? I'd hope not!
    You need to tell him how you feel and maybe set up a time every few days where you can have a skype date or something.

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