Is it normal that he acts different when he texts?

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So Im a girl and my guy best friend and I secretly like eachother, and it's kinda obvious. But we tell ourselves and others we dont, but that we're just really good best friends. Thing is, whenever I text him, I feel like the most annoying person, normal, right ? Thats not the thing. I'll text him and he'll text me, but at almost every conversation he'll end the conversation, without saying anything, as in he just stops replying. I honestly would think he hates me if we had a texting relationship. BUT we dont go to the same school, and he actually takes time to see and visit me after school. Also, when were in public, the few times we are, (with friends), he basically acts like were together, not using me, but actually showing me that he likes/loves me. So basically, he loves me in real life, but hates me through text. ..based on what I think.. FEEDBACK ? <3

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joybird

12 years ago

He probably falls asleep or else you haven't asked a question that he needs to reply to.

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Uzzie101

12 years ago

I do this with my girlfriend, apparently.

Texting is very impersonal and I know alot of guys don't really do it. It's more of a girly thing. I don't count it as socialising, and I put as little effort into my texts as possible. It's a guy thing, relax.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  12 years ago
  
  Kinda made me feel better knowing that all of them do it.. But I dont know. Thanks though!
  
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  - Uzzie101
    
    12 years ago
    
    If the two of you get along in person, then stay with him. Anyone can seems nice over texting or on Facebook, if ye have real chemistry don't throw it away because he's a dull texter!!
    
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stonecutters93

12 years ago

He probably gets busy and doesn't have time to text you. I hate texting conversations, sometimes it's really hard to tell tone.

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[Old Memory]

12 years ago

You could call him. See how he behaves then.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  12 years ago
  
  hey! this is the poster of this story. Yep, we do call eachother sometimes. He acts the way he does in person. Like he actually likes me.
  
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  - [Old Memory]
    
    12 years ago
    
    Do that more often. Talking through the phone is a lot more intimate than text.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      12 years ago
      
      I agree. And I MUCH RATHER talk to him than text. But the other problem occurs. I think I am the most annoying person in the world when it comes to him. And all the times we've called eachother, we ask before we do.
      So I get the nerve not to. Once I sorta asked him. No reply.
      
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      - [Old Memory]
        
        12 years ago
        
        From what I read, here's my advice. Play hard to get. Guys like a challenge. Wait for him to call you and only talk to him once in awhile.
        
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        Anonymous Post Author
        
        12 years ago
        
        Yes. EXACTLY what Im trying to do. (:
        
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thecoldhardtruth

12 years ago

I have amazing friends that I don't text back, it's not on purpose, it's just the way it is.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  12 years ago
  
  Hope that's the case. Thanks for the help!
  
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alv1592

12 years ago

Either he doesn't like texting much, or he's busy or falls asleep in the middle of the convo. You know he likes you a lot, so don't worry.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  12 years ago
  
  Exactly what I tell myself. Then people tell me things. (He has a reputation for being a flirt) but everyone knows about "us" So the thought that "he likes me alot" can never dedfend me anymore.
  
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Crudhouse

12 years ago

My experience is that the need for intimacy in each person is different. You're lucky if you find someone that needs it or doesn't need it as much as you...cause the one that needs it more is always the one that gets hurt

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Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress

12 years ago

The texting habit could be from a lack of manners... or as you pointed out you're both hiding your friendship. so perhaps he has to hide the conversation from others.

What I don't understand is why you have to hide the fact that you like each other. What does it matter if they know?

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  12 years ago
  
  Its not that we cant admit. Its that we act like we like eachother, but we say we dont.
  
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  - Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    
    12 years ago
    
    why do you say that?
    
    a game between friends or so your buddies don't know the truth?
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      12 years ago
      
      Nah, nah, nothing like that. Like, I literally dont like him, but people think I do. And same with him.
      
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      - Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
        
        12 years ago
        
        wait... so you don't like him but text him all the time and call him your best friend here...
        
        perhaps you might want to consider re-evaluating how you really feel about him?
        
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        Anonymous Post Author
        
        12 years ago
        
        Yeah, I'm sorta confused with myself. But he IS my bestfriend.
        
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dom180

12 years ago

I would be the same as him. It depends if he is on a Contract or PAYG. If he is on PAYG then there would be no sense in wasting money to tell you "goodbye" if he can get the same effect by doing nothing.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  12 years ago
  
  Makes so much sense! Except I know he's a better person than that.
  
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